"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If a woman offers to help you paint your house does that mean that she likes you?

Francisco d'Anconia

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*** snicker *** :p

Sorry guys. I just had an uncontrollable urge to create a noob-like thread. :D

BTW, yes; a woman did offer this to me. Yes; I accepted and she tells me that I "owe her big." ;)

I think I'll show her my "O" face...
:eek: "OHhhhh..."
:eek: "OHhhh..."
:eek: "OHhhh..."

:whistle:
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yeah, I had a couple offer to paint my house when it was under construction. It means she can see herself in that house I think. I passed - I needed a pro paintjob, not a paintjob with benefits.
 

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omg!! my 2nd favorite thread title of the year award!!
 

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Actually I was slow the first time, the second time I told her "no, but we can sand the deck" - yeah.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tell her you'll pay her back by mowing her lawn for her....

:-D
 

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fedagent said:
Tell her you'll pay her back by mowing her lawn for her....

:-D
Maybe work on her plumbing too.... ;)

Actually, before she offered she tossed out a reason for me to come by her place to "fix something." Eh, I think it's amusing when grown women play these coy games. I'm not complaining, it's just playful, light hearted and kinda cute.
 

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This means that she is open to having sex with you.

What you do is you paint one room with her.

Then you tell her you want pay her back for helping you.

Give her a back massage

and then make your move


Women find painting to be very romantic.

I am speaking from exprience.

I would tell girls about my new condo and that I still had painting to do. It was a given that they would offer to help.

so I would say.. ok you can help me pick out the paint

I would call her up a few days later, take her to the store, bring her home, paint, and ****.

I baged three girls this way, on the carpet, doggy style (with some paint on her face)
 

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Epilogue: The woman came over and attempted to help me. Ended up on a tarp by the fireplace. Had to hire professional painters to finish the job. Still haven't decided if it was worth the cost.

New Chapter: Woman who I haven't seen in about three months called me out of the blue. She's coming over tonight to help me pack and move tomorrow. This time I'm going to get most of the work done before she gets there.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Women love to feather nests. When you own a place, they aren't afraid to tell you how to redo it..help out.. etc. Be careful, tho. The dark side of this is they feel they have hooks in you.. you owe them "something". It's the female equivalent to a guy buying flowers, taking her to fancy restaurants, etc.
 

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Thomas94305 said:
Women love to feather nests. When you own a place, they aren't afraid to tell you how to redo it..help out.. etc. Be careful, tho. The dark side of this is they feel they have hooks in you.. you owe them "something". It's the female equivalent to a guy buying flowers, taking her to fancy restaurants, etc.
Too late, this one has already asked (jokingly I hope) if I'd want a room mate. :eek: I'm all for "mating" but I still think that can happen without her moving in. :p Oh yeah, she's stopping by the hairdresser before stopping over to help me pack. :rolleyes: I swear it's a ball watching women operate.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Too late, this one has already asked (jokingly I hope) if I'd want a room mate. :eek: I'm all for "mating" but I still think that can happen without her moving in. :p Oh yeah, she's stopping by the hairdresser before stopping over to help me pack. :rolleyes: I swear it's a ball watching women operate.
It's a joy when you see through their games, and don't get drawn in..
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ARE YOU KIDDING?! Franciso is saving himself for THE ONE!!!!
 

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I've had this happen to me a couple of times. Funny thing is you could only see the fresh paint job with a black light, and then it was a little spotty. Somehow the brawd got more on my sheets then in her mout...I mean wall.
 

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Hey. A lame question, but I wanted it coming from a USA native not friends who "went there".

Is it for real that people around there paint their own houses? I mean, why don't you just pay for someone to paint it for you?
 

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Oxide said:
ARE YOU KIDDING?! Franciso is saving himself for THE ONE!!!!
Are you being sarcastic?

I'm not getting it...
 

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djbr said:
Hey. A lame question, but I wanted it coming from a USA native not friends who "went there".

Is it for real that people around there paint their own houses? I mean, why don't you just pay for someone to paint it for you?

Maybe cuz not everyones rich. I am a painter, and I charge 40$ an hour, and Im not even a bonafide company. Anyone licensed and insured, will charge you the equivillent of 60$ an hour or more.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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