"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If a single mommy says in her profile that she "has kids, don't want any more", is she basically looking for the Total Beta?

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I was looking at this gal that OKCupid said is a partial "match", and it got me thinking:
White, Other religion, Doesn't smoke cigarettes, Drinks sometimes, Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more, Aries

Looking for men for long-term dating and new friends.
What I mean by Total Beta is a stepfather without the benefit of letting him have one of his own loins. Of course, it could instead just mean she's looking for a Chad to bone her. :rolleyes:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I was looking at this gal that OKCupid said is a partial "match", and it got me thinking:


What I mean by Total Beta is a stepfather without the benefit of letting him have one of his own loins. Of course, it could instead just mean she's looking for a Chad to bone her. :rolleyes:
Could very well be a good indication that she had her tubes tied during the last kid delivery and guess what she may want to do with her free time now…
 

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I guess that there's still plenty of "guys" willin to hook up with that "doesn't want kids" because I see these profiles EVERYwhere. I don't catch it and then she says, "I see you say you 'want kids,' is that a deal-breaker," and I'm like "kinda" which in my parlance means, "I'd fvck ya, but not for long, I must move on..."
 

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People still use OkCupid? I thought that site was a ghost town along with POF.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Why in the hell do you want to get involved with a single mom, says she doesn't want anymore kids says she's on BC of some sort your shooting bullets into her. Couple months and its surprise your going to be a daddy. You can't believe what these single moms say, not sure what its like where you live but child support payments are $$$$ for single mothers here in Western Canada. I've over heard girls saying get pregnant kick the guy out and collect money.
 
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