Ringleader41
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as long as you don't act overly creepy or something
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mike you are usually solid but what do you mean not F up badly. Who is in charge here?Mike32ct said:Yes.
A girl who is attracted will give you more latitude to make some minor mistakes.
But you still have to escalate and not F up badly.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I think he means to make sure you don't pull some uber-afc move that will dry her cooch up lolTrump said:Mike you are usually solid but what do you mean not F up badly. Who is in charge here?
I would say dont say dumb things and always act confident. But to not F up badly, unless its stealing from her or beating her, is beta talking.
I see where you are coming from. Worrying about F-ing up badly is AFC, no doubt. You should be confident and not focus on what you don't want. But you can still screw up, nevertheless.Trump said:Mike you are usually solid but what do you mean not F up badly. Who is in charge here?
I would say dont say dumb things and always act confident. But to not F up badly, unless its stealing from her or beating her, is beta talking.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Down to F u c k.lamobatsman said:wat is dtf