"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If a girl likes you or finds you attractive, does it really matter how you handle her

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Uh.........I say hell ya it does matter! Despite what a girl will say, NO GIRL wants a good looking, insecure, wuss!

My opinion of course
 
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Yeah it does. It depends on the level of her interest, and that interest can be gone in the blink of an eye.
 
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The rule is simple: the more interested she is the more faults she's willing to forgive. If a woman loses interest in you over one slip-up then she was probably going to change her mind by the next morning anyway.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Good question. A girl with high interest is going to be a lot more forgiving, that's for sure. But it's always best to keep a strong, confident, masculine frame.

Make that the person you really are and you'll have a lot less problems.
 
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A highly interested girl will give you more leeway, but she'll have a limit too.

That is, you still have to game her but your game can be a bit less tight.

Don't fawn, don't supplicate, don't be needy and clingy, etc., all still apply.

And, you should still do a bit of ****y/funny, lead her, be confident, and so on.
 
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I am an expert at this

hahaha i know this very well... if you dont want to lose her escalate quickly.. she already likes/finds you attractive so dont waste any time
 
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Mike32ct said:
Yes.

A girl who is attracted will give you more latitude to make some minor mistakes.

But you still have to escalate and not F up badly.
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Mike you are usually solid but what do you mean not F up badly. Who is in charge here?

I would say dont say dumb things and always act confident. But to not F up badly, unless its stealing from her or beating her, is beta talking.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mike you are usually solid but what do you mean not F up badly. Who is in charge here?

I would say dont say dumb things and always act confident. But to not F up badly, unless its stealing from her or beating her, is beta talking.
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I think he means to make sure you don't pull some uber-afc move that will dry her cooch up lol
 
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Trump said:
Mike you are usually solid but what do you mean not F up badly. Who is in charge here?

I would say dont say dumb things and always act confident. But to not F up badly, unless its stealing from her or beating her, is beta talking.
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I see where you are coming from. Worrying about F-ing up badly is AFC, no doubt. You should be confident and not focus on what you don't want. But you can still screw up, nevertheless.

By F-ing up badly, I meant, for example, missing a key sign that she's DTF. The "Most Obvious Come Ons Missed" thread are full of those. Most chicks give a SUBTLE sign or phrase that indicates they are DTF. Inexperienced guys might not know them. Even experienced guys miss them sometimes when they are tired, drunk, or just never encountered this particular one before.

So be confident, but keep the radar on, or you could miss good opportunities.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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