lets say she likes the way you look physically, you're her type. and shes checking you out, giving you IOIS etc. then im i right in thinking that theres no need to build attraction? any need to do C/F? just build comfort and rapport right?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If a girl is already physically attracted to you..
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
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You're in.
Its all about the attraction.
Attraction > Interest > Legs Open Wide.
Its all about the attraction.
Attraction > Interest > Legs Open Wide.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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... then she already wants you. Physically. This softens up attracting her mentally a lot. Meaning, you're basically in as long as you don't say something very stupid 
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I still say you have to build attraction. So, she likes your looks. But, what about your personality? That is her next step in her choosing you! She may jvst want to fvck you based on your looks but, if your looking for a relationship... You gotta keep building attraction.
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True, but at that point, you can only screw up. You are still at an advantage.I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Bad looking guys have it hard from the get-go...unless they are insanely popular.
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True, too. I have a friend who is not good looking from what girls tell me. But, he is a funny guy and pretty good personality. One girl told me after meeting him said; "his personality makes him sexy." Which, goes back to women don't mainly judge on looks but, personality...LostAndConfused said:
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
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AS WOMEN AGE THEY START TO CARE MORE AND MORE ABOUT PERSONALITY CAUSE YOUNG ATTRACTIVE GUYS DONT WANT THEM AS MUCH AS BEFORE.I.A.F.Y.B. said:
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The physical part is important. Remember, she has sized up your "Do-ability" in the first 2-3 seconds when she looks at you. If she likes your face and body, now it's time for the psychological. Mind games. You want to make her crave you sexually, by kino, dropping hints, talking vaguely sexually, and letting her know you desire her. If it all comes together, after the third margarita, she ought to be putty in your hands.
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Yup I am in that boat now...JackPrescott said:
There are different kinds of attractions.
There are those with crushes. A girl with a crush usually has seen you around, watched you for some time. Her attraction runs deep in her emotions and plays somewhere in her fantasies that often extend back into her childhood. With a girl with a crush you can ignore her and treat her like crap and she’ll keep coming back for more. In all likeliness you will end up breaking her heart.
Then there are the ones who when they first see you that fireworks or whatever goes off in her head. She’ll go like, “Wow.” For the most part with such a girl you have to move relatively quickly to get her hooked. You want to start talking to her right away and lead the conversation to more of a we rather than you and me. This is the time to turn up the charm, look her strongly in the eyes and let her know that yes indeed, you are the man.
There are also ones that like you in a way that builds up over time, from being around you. These are sisters and friends of friends, girls that you work with and ones that are in your social circle. If you come on too strong, like you’re picking her up, she’ll most likely be offended that you would treat her such a way. You have to be a little more gentle with her. She’ll more likely expect a relationship even if it is just friendship rather than just sex. This is the type of girl that you want to take for a walk and hold her hand.
There are those with crushes. A girl with a crush usually has seen you around, watched you for some time. Her attraction runs deep in her emotions and plays somewhere in her fantasies that often extend back into her childhood. With a girl with a crush you can ignore her and treat her like crap and she’ll keep coming back for more. In all likeliness you will end up breaking her heart.
Then there are the ones who when they first see you that fireworks or whatever goes off in her head. She’ll go like, “Wow.” For the most part with such a girl you have to move relatively quickly to get her hooked. You want to start talking to her right away and lead the conversation to more of a we rather than you and me. This is the time to turn up the charm, look her strongly in the eyes and let her know that yes indeed, you are the man.
There are also ones that like you in a way that builds up over time, from being around you. These are sisters and friends of friends, girls that you work with and ones that are in your social circle. If you come on too strong, like you’re picking her up, she’ll most likely be offended that you would treat her such a way. You have to be a little more gentle with her. She’ll more likely expect a relationship even if it is just friendship rather than just sex. This is the type of girl that you want to take for a walk and hold her hand.
Im in your boat Number 2 there potato...past 2 weeks Ive seen this girl always throing glances at me....standin near me and my mates in clubs (im at uni..so you see the same people regulalrly)....thing is Im trying something different....I throw her some glances back....and no doubt Il get stick saying...go and make the move etc....but Im kinda havin fun with this....and its really cool to see her look for me..then at me whenever Im out......only thing tho...as I say..this has been happenin for a few weeks....Ive decided next time ou to make the move....but still...2 weeks.....she hasnt gone off with someone else yet...spose u cud say shes kinda mix of 1 and 2....
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Amen to you sir.potato said:
I got one of these first day in my new school and f*cked it up cause i didnt move fast enough.was working well in the first month but screw her now.I learned from my mistake and thats what matters :cheer:
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The girl that told me "his personality makes him sexy." is only 20 years old. I would say it depends on the girl than, perhaps?DonGorgon said: