"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Idiot friend wants me to hook him up...

AmIAFC

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I'm currently seeing someone, and this girl has a lot of female friends, some of whom are very good looking and charming.

Now, I have a buddy. He's alone and bored. Thing is, he's been demanding that I try to hook him up with one of these girls by setting up a "double date" or some form of get-together. Under normal circumstances, I would do it, but...

Well, my friend is probably one of the most immature individuals I know. In fact, I'd go so far as to say he's legitimate pu**y repellant. He's crashed and burned so many times with women due to his antics and behavior that I wouldn't be surprised to learn he was a virgin. For example, he urinated on a girl's white carpet once because he got upset that she wouldn't let him sleep over. Another example is that he's stalked females in the past - nothing serious, but sleeping in his car across the street from where they live.

I'm afraid that if I introduce this clown to the girl I'm seeing and her friends, it'd make me look bad, but would that make me a bad friend to not help him out?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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squirrels

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Dude, a real friend would TELL HIM EXACTLY what his problem is with women and why you won't introduce him.

I would wait until he shows some capacity to charm women on his own (and the ability to relinquish these unsightly behaviors) before you start punishing your girl's friends with his presence.

If someone doesn't stand up and tell him what's up, then he will never learn. And if he's a friend, he should understand...and if he's any kind of a man, he'll take on the challenge of becoming better with the ladies.
 

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squirrels said:
Dude, a real friend would TELL HIM EXACTLY what his problem is with women and why you won't introduce him.

I would wait until he shows some capacity to charm women on his own (and the ability to relinquish these unsightly behaviors) before you start punishing your girl's friends with his presence.

If someone doesn't stand up and tell him what's up, then he will never learn. And if he's a friend, he should understand...and if he's any kind of a man, he'll take on the challenge of becoming better with the ladies.
My thoughts exactly.
 

zekko

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squirrels said:
If someone doesn't stand up and tell him what's up, then he will never learn.
That sounds good but what if he pees on your carpet?
:)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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