IDGAF that I come off as "butthurt"

[lizardking82]

There are cases here, like with two conversations I was having tonight, that I see guys say "well, don't do this cause you might come off butthurt to this or that woman".

Never do I worry about that and neither should you. If a woman is trying to send you away nicely and you got the nerve, call her out for that ****. If you get this "ughhh" feeling in your gut, it is there for a reason and that reason is to tell you "hey ****head, this person is trynna fool you" and in a lot of cases, they are. It is just their lame way of handling stuff. Don't be mad, just tell her how lame she is. You afraid you seem "butthurt"? LOL, I DGAF what it seems to her. It comes a point where it's fun to see how mediocre her responses are when you just telling them to straighten up.

A specific case, this girl I was talking to since a couple of days, first day was superb, she went on and on about different things and how she never opens up to anyone like this and in the second night, when I ask her "Do you feel the sexual tension in this convo" she answers "Yeah, I was about to say the same thing" and then last night and tonight...puf, tones it down to a point where she's draggin' the conversation and after trying a couple of times to revive it, she tells me LOL "Well, you are talking dirty to me so that's why". Lame excuse so I call her out and she goes on to tell me how "Now you are kinda sounding like my ex, ain't got the desire to deal with this one more time" and I tell her "Well, maybe your ex had a point honey. Anyways, keep going through life mediocrily and not using anyone's else suggestions to grow or evolve" and I block her and gone she is with the wind.

Either way, either you will get to see her true colors or you will get to see someone who wants to make sure it was just a misunderstanding and that's it. Put them to the sword when it comes to responsability, it is the only way they learn or the only way you learn they never learn so that you can flee the scene earlier and save time, emotions and everything else.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I usually am more diplomatic when I encounter situations like these. I just cut stuff short and leave. Then they feel awkward that now no one is talking to them. I can be confrontational, but people talk and they’re less likely to talk crap if you just leave them alone. I’ve had stuff come back to me before because **** gets skewed about what I said or what someone thought I said. It’s like playing the game telephone when you’re a kid (not sure if they play it over in Albania but maybe there’s something similar or it goes by a different name).

 

[lizardking82]

I usually am more diplomatic when I encounter situations like these. I just cut stuff short and leave. Then they feel awkward that now no one is talking to them. I can be confrontational, but people talk and they’re less likely to talk crap if you just leave them alone. I’ve had stuff come back to me before because **** gets skewed about what I said or what someone thought I said. It’s like playing the game telephone when you’re a kid (not sure if they play it over in Albania but maybe there’s something similar or it goes by a different name).

I am more diplomatic in most situations as well, but sometimes when I feel like letting them have it, I do let them have it. Not in a mad way, just in a confronting way. At that point, I have already logged off the whole thing mentally.

 

[Macaframalama]

I prefer this route too. I'll get downright rude with ppl I deal with in daily life. Zero fvcks given. I didn't blow it out. It was already blown out by coming at me that way to begin with, from my perspective. I want absolutely nothing to do with ppl like that. I'll usually just clown the fvck out of them if they deny it and if they choose to escalate it, I'll laugh them off till they are fuming and makes for good comedy. I can take it as good as I can dish it though too. I won't call someone friend if they're afraid to call me out if I'm slipping up. You don't end up with a huge circle this way, but you do end up with a solid one.

 

[marmel75]

Why are you wasting your time texting this much instead of setting up a date? Did you set up a date?

Too much too soon, IMHO. There are always two reasons you get from women, the reason she gives you(usually BS) and the real reason. She gave you the reason that you were talking too sexual to her but the real reason was that you probably came off too needy and lacking options since you were texting her that often over a 3 day period... this sets up a "my God if he is like this in the first few days and we have never met, what is he going to be like after we've gone out a few times"....And you didn't set up a date apparently during all that texting?

 

[lizardking82]

Why are you wasting your time texting this much instead of setting up a date? Did you set up a date? Too much too soon, IMHO.

I was gonna do that, but this freak showed her true colors way too soon.

 

[marmel75]

I was gonna do that, but this freak showed her true colors way too soon.

I disagree...I think you did way too much texting and came off as needy and lacking options in her mind. Whether its true or not, a woman's perception of you is reality before you've met. You killed her interest level in you is what happened.

 

[lizardking82]

I disagree...I think you did way too much texting and came off as needy and lacking options in her mind. Whether its true or not, a woman's perception of you is reality before you've met. You killed her interest level in you is what happened.

I respectfully disagree. She confessed to having had a 2 year failed relationship and a couple of other flings here and there. 22 years old already. After the first talk, she wrote herself two days later, we had a short chat. I invite people to go out when I feel comfortable with that, but most of them do not go past this stage anyways, just natural selection. I have had many cases where conversation went on for a couple of days and then date happened, no problem at all. She just got scared as to how she could open up to a stranger so quickly and decided to enter her shell again.

This is not only related to this case, though, this is for many different situations, the post. But I will give you this, maybe I should asked on a date the second time she wrote herself.