"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sambwoy

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I know you can't help who you are/aren't attracted to, but it would be better on my sanity though, if some girls of my age bracket would be a bit more mature and treat those 'lesser' people in their eyes with dignity, rather than try to create their own exclusive posse of good-looking people by shutting out everyone else. If they are still acting like this at say 35 they are fvcked.

That's what's holding so many guys down I think- these girls' notion that you are worth nothing to society if you aren't good-looking. Girls like this reinforce this notion the most I think.

I have an experience of girls like this from 18-present. I have subsequently gone on with thoughts of overall failure in life, and now I have no focus, no direction because my outlook is bad. I just wanna cry to the point that I have really focused more these days on helping disadvantaged people- I don't care anymore about fashion student type girls who judge everyone.

Some of you have talked about unconditional love on this forum. Maybe that's what I need, and perhaps just disappointed that I can't get it.



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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Mature (say 35+) women are shallow too. They never completely get over that. However, they are sometimes slightly less shallow than an 18 to 25 yo girl.

That's good that you are helping the disadvantaged.

I'm generally polite and kind to females of ALL looks, EXECPT the ones that roll their eyes or think they're too good for me. F them. That's why I never agreed with the "approach any female" that the PUAs recommend. IMO, there are some women you just don't or shouldn't pay attention to. Not because of their looks, but their attitude/vibe. If I sense hostility from her because I don't fit the profile of what she finds hot, it would be really silly to approach her.
 

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That last part was why I thought the club scene was not for me.
 

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As hopeless and helpless I think of myself, with little direction/focus in life, even as little as putting change in a charity box takes the focus off me somewhat- its helping people who don't have or can't afford the mentality of much of Western culture, where it seems being attractive shouldn't be taken for granted.

In my youth, I've seen wheelchair-bound people being stigmatized by the girls in this culture. It's as if we don't care.
 
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