"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ideas for 3rd date

Mtrain

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hey fellow DJs!

need your input for this 3rd date I plan on going on probably next week.. Went out with this girl once for dinner and once for lunch already. I think her interest level is about 60%, I wanna try to get that up higher... I haven't called or emailed her too much, I talk to her about once a week... She says she's into concerts, comedy show, broadway shows, but not really into sports.. I want to do something fun and exciting, and hopefully raise her interest level more in me.. which activities would you guys stick with?? she said that she wouldn't mind going to see a basketball game, I have tickets to see the Knicks next week, you think I should ask her to go?? Or should I try the broadway show with her?? Thanks..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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it sounds like you've already made two steps foward with lunch and dinner... now try one step back
 

Mtrain

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Thanks Soprano! could you elaborate on that? should I just go for a drink now with her or something? I guess what you trying to say is don't go for the expensive event yet? I called her up this past Saturday, just to wish her a happy birthday.. I told her I was going to be busy meeting up with some friends.. Trying to utilize the "Scarcity principle" :D
 

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I don't think dinner or lunch were mistakes. I've gone out on dinner dates probably 50 times by now and that hasn't influenced the direction of the relationship for better or worse.

Since she flat-out told you that she doesn't like sports, I'd avoid the Knick game. I thought that would go without saying but apparently not. Since she said she likes comedy, take her to a comedy show. Get the beer flowing a little bit to loosen her up. If she is laughing, and drinking, and the date is going well, tell her that you guys should rent a movie and relax the rest of the night. Then, make your move.

Blitz
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mtrain

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thanks guys... I will keep the comedy show, and mall idea in mind.. She doesn't like the cold weather so I definitely won't do ice skating or hiking...
 
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