Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
3-5 reps. Not more than 5.What do you guys say? Some say 3x 8 other say 5x5 for example.
I've been boxing for years so my posture is lean( if I don't let myself go, which i learned the hard way last year). I still box occasionally but I do wanna get a little bigger while maintaining my speed . But boxing slowly get pushed to a second place behind weightlifting. I am 81/84 kilos ,1.85 and have 17% bodyfat now (begin of December it was 25%) .Over the years I tried different ways and for me personally 3x8 is perfect for strength and mass gains, but everyone responds differently and this is what works for me
If you want to focus solaly on strength then below 5, so it depends on your goals
Can you elaborate on this please?3-5 reps. Not more than 5.
There is no such thing.What do you guys say? Some say 3x 8 other say 5x5 for example.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Like i said, to get stronger, a little bigger and yet stay flexible and fast.There is no such thing.
It's all dependant on what your goals are and what you are training for.
This should be helpful.Like i said, to get stronger, a little bigger and yet stay flexible and fast.
Wow that's really interesting. Thanks a lot .This should be helpful.
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Loading Recommendations for Muscle Strength, Hypertrophy, and Local Endurance: A Re-Examination of the Repetition Continuum
Loading recommendations for resistance training are typically prescribed along what has come to be known as the “repetition continuum”, which proposes that the number of repetitions performed at a given magnitude of load will result in ...www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
3-5 reps are optimal for strength gains. Size comes naturally with strength. Work on getting as strong as possible.Can you elaborate on this please?
I found this guide a while ago. I try to maintain proper form so for large muscle groups I tend to use the “size” column and for smaller groups I tend to use the “endurance“ column. I found a cool app to keep track of everything. Has a timer between sets, also a second timer if needed. You create your workout from a huge list of exercises or make custom ones if not available. I paid the one time ~$15 for the lifetime uprades. I build my workout based on suggestions from the guy from Athleanx. I watched all the videos in the playlist below. Took a while but would rather be educated than waste time or get injured. I’m usually doing something like 3-4 sets, 8-20 reps.What do you guys say? Some say 3x 8 other say 5x5 for example.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Which data? I never trained specifically to failure. Just continued overloading the bar over timeRE Subjectivity... Data supports that the last 5 reps to failure
To be clear, I have trained to failure as part of a progressive overload programming. Failure just wasn’t the specific goal of the training. At some point we all hit some plateaus that take a while to break through.Read into these as much as you want, but all signs point towards training to failure as the predominant source of progress in well-trained individuals. If you aren't "well trained" then you probably don't need to go to failure.
Unfortunately I don’t have the appetite for any more growth (no pun intended). Been going in the other direction weight wise. Focused on cardio and longevity. I ended somewhere between the high end intermediate and low end advanced range. Squatting and deadlifting 2BW and 2.5BW for triples, respectively.If I could make an unsolicited suggestion:
Take a look at Jordan Peters training Trained By JP and give it a go for a couple months. It's all failure based training, as in - failure is the goal. If you're significantly trained, this will probably put some new growth on you. Not sure if you saw my picture in another thread or not, but most dudes that I know who are bigger than me are using this system - or ones with very similar fundamentals (being failure training).
Is it like HIIT? One set to failure? I made some pretty good strength gains on that back in the day.If I could make an unsolicited suggestion:
Take a look at Jordan Peters training Trained By JP and give it a go for a couple months. It's all failure based training, as in - failure is the goal. If you're significantly trained, this will probably put some new growth on you. Not sure if you saw my picture in another thread or not, but most dudes that I know who are bigger than me are using this system - or ones with very similar fundamentals (being failure training).
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Nice, similar, I don't do "tonnage" but that would be more accurate to check total volume rather than reps/sets/weight.Cool, me too!
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Here I thought I was the only one.
I used to love running Vince Gironda's "Honest Man" workouts, his famous 8x8's. Did them exactly as he did...30 seconds or less between supersetting 2 exercises for 8 reps each, 8 sets total, then changed exercises and repeated. Did this with a total of 8 exercises, so 4 complete sets. Usually took about 45 minutes and would do the same workout once in the morning and again in the evening as he did.https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33497853/
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The mechanisms of muscle hypertrophy and their application to resistance training - PubMed
The quest to increase lean body mass is widely pursued by those who lift weights. Research is lacking, however, as to the best approach for maximizing exercise-induced muscle growth. Bodybuilders generally train with moderate loads and fairly short rest intervals that induce high amounts of...pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
Read into these as much as you want, but all signs point towards training to failure as the predominant source of progress in well-trained individuals. If you aren't "well trained" then you probably don't need to go to failure.
This is the basis behind Escalating Density Training(EDT).Cool, me too!
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Here I thought I was the only one.
Must be pretty good...I was bigger and stronger than you without steroids. At age 40+His methods are severely dated and not based in science or widespread anecdotal evidence. Not saying they won't work - almost anything can be done to make someone look jacked, but they are not the most effective by any means.
Failure training 3x a week once into the intermediate phases of lifting, combined with quality food intake, will do more than anything Gironda has put out there. Sorry to poo-pooh your dude.
I am unfamiliar with his 8x8 method, but I will for sure read about it later after I am done with work. I am familiar with the personality. Gironda dips are one of my favorite callisthenic exercises and I do a ton of them on chest day.I used to love running Vince Gironda's "Honest Man" workouts, his famous 8x8's. Did them exactly as he did...30 seconds or less between supersetting 2 exercises for 8 reps each, 8 sets total, then changed exercises and repeated. Did this with a total of 8 exercises, so 4 complete sets. Usually took about 45 minutes and would do the same workout once in the morning and again in the evening as he did.
Super intense training, tons of volume, definitely high intermediate-advanced level training but results were amazing. Would run this 6 weeks and usually did it every 6 months, followed by deload periods after.
Not enough people know about Vince Gironda and his methodologies but for my money he is one of the best resources out there for a natural person looking to build an aesthetic physique. He is known as the father of modern day bodybuilding for a reason.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.