You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
To be honest my friend, I have noticed that a few only follow the rules & not there head.The_Wolf said:Not bad at all.
In all honesty, I prefer shy girls. Somewhat of more comfortable around them.
I don't get why the people here are so overwhelmed by you texting her "not by the rules"
say what? england is the world's pig farm. why on earth must every pathetic english dude leave on the weekend for the new baltic states?johncrawford said:To be honest my friend, I have noticed that a few only follow the rules & not there head.![]()
I must admit, I have done this before.I have learned from my mistakes.:rock:
Theres just to many hot girl in this little town of England:rockon:
I'm from New zealand :nono:sparky0000 said:say what? england is the world's pig farm. why on earth must every pathetic english dude leave on the weekend for the new baltic states?
http://www.hs.fi/english/article/St...Old+Tallinn+bars+and+nightclubs/1076154680798
Todd says that the bars in Tallinn are much the same as in Norwich, but the atmosphere is better. "The locals are enormously friendly. Back in Norwich, things are more aggressive and people are more envious."
All of the lads sing the praises of the Tallinn girls. "They are very beautiful, slim and very fit-looking", they repeat over and over again.
Isn't it interesting that you have been here for only that long and already a self-proclaimed judge of other people.johncrawford said:This is your point of view country boy
I was just filling in time on the bus![]()
Take a chill pill please sir:box:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I have a lot to learn thenFull circle said:I could not have said better how correct you are, Tiger!
Some newbies tend to be "know it all" and yet come to these sites to either brag and/or to show immature expertise. To learn, one must have a non-judgemental open mind. Peace!!!!![]()
I am glad to hear that. Be careful NOT to attack people who may know much more than you pretend to.johncrawford said:I have a lot to learn then![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
F*** it I'll talk/MSN/text her she's going to the doctor's.johncrawford said:Oneday talk then oneday off etc.. is this o.k?