"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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IamtheAlphamale

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I always wanted to be good at approaching. I'm down for trying whatever. I would appretiate some feedback from people. I am not a newbie really but I am not a veteran in cold approaches. In a bit I am going to goto the gym and then later on I will hit the mall and get a few approaches. If you guys have good ideas for places or ideas for appraoching that would be really awesome.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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IamtheAlphamale

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Actually I haven't really done any approaches for a while. I was doing them before but then I had surgery on my knee and stopped because I could not walk for a while. But now I'm going to go hardcore. The problem I ran into before was that I would go after girls who were walking in the other direction a lot because I wanted to get my quota in. I think I will need to try harder.
 

IamtheAlphamale

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I have to be honest the main reason that I want to do this is to get good at random conversation.

On my way to the gym I was at the liquor store and I opened a group of three and the convo was alright... nothing special at all. Mainly we talked about what the girls were doing tonight.

When I went to the gym I started talking to this one girl who worked there about what she was doing tonight but then it got really busy for her and I left.

I also opened some girls at the mall later on except that it was just as the mall was closing. I did not realize that the mall was closing super early which is why it was such a pathetic approach. They worked at a store and they were closing it up and pretty busy.

I am pretty drunk so that is why this is so... hurried. Anyways I will do much better in the future.

None of these convo's will do much except the gym one may have made another girl a bit jelious.. I guess we will see.
 
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