That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Distant Light said:Seriously guys who say this or think like that aren't actually good with women. Ever guy in this game that is actually getting results knows that every girl you try to get can be fuked in the 1st day. Its usually between Day 1 and Day 3 unless your doing Bradp's slow seduction, or real busy that you can't meet up with her. If you are having to wait months, weeks, and multiple day2s then you aren't doing something right.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You have no idea what you're talking about when you refer to me in personal terms. You admit the hypocricy too - I did not peg you wrong.JPFromTally said:Here are the rules:
I am a man so it is my desire to sleep with women as quickly as possible and with as many as I can. If I can achieve this then I am a stud.
You are a woman so sleeping with men quickly makes you easy and sleeping with many of them makes you a wh0re.
Most women will actually agree to these rules. The ones who don't are the ones who have slept with tons of guys and need to make little excuses to comfort their fragile little egos.
I didn't make up the rules so don't bite my head off. And by the way the hypocrisy of the whole thing doesn't make me lose a bit of sleep.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Nailed it.Ashley Chuckles said:First date fvcks are girls who are prime candidate for fvck buddy... maybe you'd make them a GF if you didn't quite understand the concept of fvck buddy but thought that having them as GF was the only way to ensure future sexual relations...
So then if the girl has fvcked a bunch of guys on the second date- thats fine. Also If she has had 9 sexual partners- thats fine too. That girl that told you that you would have to wait three months told the last guy that he had to wait two months and after he fvcked her he left, so now she has uped it to three months- but she got bored before the three month mark because you were not a challenge and she bored of the control she had over you.Jariel said:Every guy is different. A lot of guys would be happy to have a quick and easy lay, others, like myself, prefer a woman with more self respect.
Personally I find promiscuity a huge turn off. I have/would never enter a relationship with a girl who had one night stands or more than 10 sexual partners. If a girl gives it up on the first or even the second date, it doesn't sit well with me.
I'm not saying that's a moral code for anyone else to live by, but I have my standards and I won't lower them.
One girl I dated was a virgin and told me I'd have to wait 3 months before we had sex. She wanted to be sure of me and wanted to get comfortable with me. I can't explain why, but I found that incredibly attractive and I gained so much respect for her! Unfortunately we didn't last 3 months together.
What happened to morals and values?damnbugs said:I think we need to see females as more social equals sexually and not persecute them for having and enjoying sex too- it means more sex for everyone.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.