You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Distant Light said:Seriously guys who say this or think like that aren't actually good with women. Ever guy in this game that is actually getting results knows that every girl you try to get can be fuked in the 1st day. Its usually between Day 1 and Day 3 unless your doing Bradp's slow seduction, or real busy that you can't meet up with her. If you are having to wait months, weeks, and multiple day2s then you aren't doing something right.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You have no idea what you're talking about when you refer to me in personal terms. You admit the hypocricy too - I did not peg you wrong.JPFromTally said:Here are the rules:
I am a man so it is my desire to sleep with women as quickly as possible and with as many as I can. If I can achieve this then I am a stud.
You are a woman so sleeping with men quickly makes you easy and sleeping with many of them makes you a wh0re.
Most women will actually agree to these rules. The ones who don't are the ones who have slept with tons of guys and need to make little excuses to comfort their fragile little egos.
I didn't make up the rules so don't bite my head off. And by the way the hypocrisy of the whole thing doesn't make me lose a bit of sleep.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Nailed it.Ashley Chuckles said:First date fvcks are girls who are prime candidate for fvck buddy... maybe you'd make them a GF if you didn't quite understand the concept of fvck buddy but thought that having them as GF was the only way to ensure future sexual relations...
So then if the girl has fvcked a bunch of guys on the second date- thats fine. Also If she has had 9 sexual partners- thats fine too. That girl that told you that you would have to wait three months told the last guy that he had to wait two months and after he fvcked her he left, so now she has uped it to three months- but she got bored before the three month mark because you were not a challenge and she bored of the control she had over you.Jariel said:Every guy is different. A lot of guys would be happy to have a quick and easy lay, others, like myself, prefer a woman with more self respect.
Personally I find promiscuity a huge turn off. I have/would never enter a relationship with a girl who had one night stands or more than 10 sexual partners. If a girl gives it up on the first or even the second date, it doesn't sit well with me.
I'm not saying that's a moral code for anyone else to live by, but I have my standards and I won't lower them.
One girl I dated was a virgin and told me I'd have to wait 3 months before we had sex. She wanted to be sure of me and wanted to get comfortable with me. I can't explain why, but I found that incredibly attractive and I gained so much respect for her! Unfortunately we didn't last 3 months together.
What happened to morals and values?damnbugs said:I think we need to see females as more social equals sexually and not persecute them for having and enjoying sex too- it means more sex for everyone.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.