Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Distant Light said:Seriously guys who say this or think like that aren't actually good with women. Ever guy in this game that is actually getting results knows that every girl you try to get can be fuked in the 1st day. Its usually between Day 1 and Day 3 unless your doing Bradp's slow seduction, or real busy that you can't meet up with her. If you are having to wait months, weeks, and multiple day2s then you aren't doing something right.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You have no idea what you're talking about when you refer to me in personal terms. You admit the hypocricy too - I did not peg you wrong.JPFromTally said:Here are the rules:
I am a man so it is my desire to sleep with women as quickly as possible and with as many as I can. If I can achieve this then I am a stud.
You are a woman so sleeping with men quickly makes you easy and sleeping with many of them makes you a wh0re.
Most women will actually agree to these rules. The ones who don't are the ones who have slept with tons of guys and need to make little excuses to comfort their fragile little egos.
I didn't make up the rules so don't bite my head off. And by the way the hypocrisy of the whole thing doesn't make me lose a bit of sleep.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Nailed it.Ashley Chuckles said:First date fvcks are girls who are prime candidate for fvck buddy... maybe you'd make them a GF if you didn't quite understand the concept of fvck buddy but thought that having them as GF was the only way to ensure future sexual relations...
So then if the girl has fvcked a bunch of guys on the second date- thats fine. Also If she has had 9 sexual partners- thats fine too. That girl that told you that you would have to wait three months told the last guy that he had to wait two months and after he fvcked her he left, so now she has uped it to three months- but she got bored before the three month mark because you were not a challenge and she bored of the control she had over you.Jariel said:Every guy is different. A lot of guys would be happy to have a quick and easy lay, others, like myself, prefer a woman with more self respect.
Personally I find promiscuity a huge turn off. I have/would never enter a relationship with a girl who had one night stands or more than 10 sexual partners. If a girl gives it up on the first or even the second date, it doesn't sit well with me.
I'm not saying that's a moral code for anyone else to live by, but I have my standards and I won't lower them.
One girl I dated was a virgin and told me I'd have to wait 3 months before we had sex. She wanted to be sure of me and wanted to get comfortable with me. I can't explain why, but I found that incredibly attractive and I gained so much respect for her! Unfortunately we didn't last 3 months together.
What happened to morals and values?damnbugs said:I think we need to see females as more social equals sexually and not persecute them for having and enjoying sex too- it means more sex for everyone.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.