"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I work an odd second/third shift schedule. Any way to work around this?

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Had a semi-successful date last night - we ended up making out in a field and then I said something really, really stupid that might have been fatal. I'm only worrying about it because I've had few options lately.

I work some wonky hours (2 PM to 1 AM Thursday through Sunday) and I have three days off with this wake-up-in-the-afternoon-and-go-to-bed-in-the-morning sleep schedule. Since the entire world is awake in the mornings and has weekends off, I feel like getting a hold of a girl might have be on the back burner until I return to school in the fall. Monday through Wednesday is almost always dead around my town.

Is there any way I can really remedy this? I'm hitting the gym constantly to make up for this lost time, but I'm sure there's a solution...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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At least you're up in the late afternoon/evening/early night hours. That's when most socializing and seducing goes on. There's not that much seduction that goes on in the morning that I'm aware of. You've got three nights a week to make the most of.
 

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starfishandcoffee said:
Even on Monday through Wednesday?
Okay well, that's not exactly ideal :(
 

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zekko said:
There's not that much seduction that goes on in the morning that I'm aware of. You've got three nights a week to make the most of.

Come on, zekko. I know you've done some breakfast sarging. Strutting through the Denny's, scooping up some honeys. "Sup baby. You need some sausage to go with those eggs?"
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Girls still go out on those nights, especially in the summer. Just have to find a bar/club in your area that attracts a lot of people the nights you are available.
 
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