B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Because I'm looking back at how insane they are.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I wish some of my posts could be deleted
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
there's really no way to do that?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I was unstable when I made a lot of my posts
zekko
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Well, you're in good company there.
Igetit!
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So....you see how "insane" you looked in your past posts. GOOD.
I'm glad you finally see what was GLARINGLY OBVIOUS to everyone else. KEEP LOOKING AT THEM. Maybe the shame and embarrassment you feel will be enough to keep you sane and in reality. And also be THANKFUL....
If you're truly self-aware to the point you've grown past and out of your SELF-INDUCED paranoia,be thankful. Be thankful that you're not locked in an eternal,self-inflicted,mental cycle of despair and defeatism like BigDave. Cause honestly,when I read all your other threads,I kinda dubbed you "BigDave 2.0".
Glad to see I was mistaken.