B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Because I'm looking back at how insane they are.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I wish some of my posts could be deleted
- Thread starter B0redandl0nely
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
there's really no way to do that?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I was unstable when I made a lot of my posts
zekko
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Well, you're in good company there.
Igetit!
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So....you see how "insane" you looked in your past posts. GOOD.
I'm glad you finally see what was GLARINGLY OBVIOUS to everyone else. KEEP LOOKING AT THEM. Maybe the shame and embarrassment you feel will be enough to keep you sane and in reality. And also be THANKFUL....
If you're truly self-aware to the point you've grown past and out of your SELF-INDUCED paranoia,be thankful. Be thankful that you're not locked in an eternal,self-inflicted,mental cycle of despair and defeatism like BigDave. Cause honestly,when I read all your other threads,I kinda dubbed you "BigDave 2.0".
Glad to see I was mistaken.