KnightRyder
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I wish I was in college again..how to?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
Well....alot of colleges have night classes for "enrichment". You know, wine tasting, how to do your taxes, desktop publishing and the like. This will get you back on campus. Can you take it from there?
Look at this as an opportunity! Why not go back to college for a masters? This justifies being older and gets their respect right away. Then, all you have to do is get involved. Everyone in college is open to something new when the semester begins. Women/girls are no exception.
You can use your age to a great advantage. Girls will come to you for advice and then you can turn the game around on them by telling them that a counselor is available through student health services, free of charge. You can assist them with distraction from the problem, but you don't ever try to solve their problems.
Oh, wait! Read that again! Yes. It's true! They DO have problems at that age. Lots of dramatics going on. You sure you want to see a college girl?
You can use your age to a great advantage. Girls will come to you for advice and then you can turn the game around on them by telling them that a counselor is available through student health services, free of charge. You can assist them with distraction from the problem, but you don't ever try to solve their problems.
Oh, wait! Read that again! Yes. It's true! They DO have problems at that age. Lots of dramatics going on. You sure you want to see a college girl?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
PocoDiablo
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Get your teachers credentials.
Francisco d'Anconia
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Out of curiosity, is there a specific reason for your interest in college other than recapturing the past? Like Vincent said, you're not in college anymore. Yeah, you can re-enroll but doing it just to meet women is a bit lame.
If you truly want to better yourself, go for it. Then you can capitalize on your current student status. It will be difficult to understand and appreciate where you are right now if you spend your efforts on trying to capture a moment that has already come and gone.
If you truly want to better yourself, go for it. Then you can capitalize on your current student status. It will be difficult to understand and appreciate where you are right now if you spend your efforts on trying to capture a moment that has already come and gone.
KnightRyder
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Hey guys, relax will ya. I am only 23 years old.
PocoDiablo
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Just enroll in some classes! I knew plenty of older guys who did that and got plenty of action. Everyone knew why they were there, and ... well... do I need to spell it out?
Marcopolo
Senior Don Juan
Go to grad school. You are no longer their peers, so forget about trying to pretend that you are. First, if you go to frat parties and try to act like a drunk 18 year old you will look like an idiot. However, it is to your advantage that you are no longer in their peer group. Many of these women want to date a slightly older, more sophisticated and worldly gentleman such as yourself rather than those immature drunk frat boys.
You are an intelligent grad student who is a calibere above a frat boy, play it up to the max. Also, many times if you are in a graduate program, you are in an instructional position. True, you do not want to be their therapist, but if you are tutoring them or teaching them in some way, many women develop a very powerful attraction to someone in this position without you even trying.
Don't just get a graduate degree to meet women, but in most cases a graduate degree will help you out in your career anyway, so you are killing two birds with one stone here.
You are an intelligent grad student who is a calibere above a frat boy, play it up to the max. Also, many times if you are in a graduate program, you are in an instructional position. True, you do not want to be their therapist, but if you are tutoring them or teaching them in some way, many women develop a very powerful attraction to someone in this position without you even trying.
Don't just get a graduate degree to meet women, but in most cases a graduate degree will help you out in your career anyway, so you are killing two birds with one stone here.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Good_ol_boy
Senior Don Juan
Get a job!!!
Seriously, colleges need everything from groundskeepers to computer nerds, not to mention accountants and doctors.
Seriously, colleges need everything from groundskeepers to computer nerds, not to mention accountants and doctors.