"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I was Lame Today

djweses89

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so dissapointed in myself ive came back to this site after not bein here for a long time like 3 weeks ago because my dating life was gettin pretty bad. When i first came here like a year ago i only read mabey 2 or 3 articles it helped but not alot. But scense ive been back ive been reading anything i can on here been on the forums everyday. Its helped my life so much girls is a breeze for me now. But i do have one problem. I can talk to girls make them laugh make them have alot of intrest flirt all of that good stuff easy now but today i was so dissapointed in myself. theres this chick ive been working in my 4th i can tell shes pretty intrested. today i was gunna get her number because ive pretty much been forgettin to. and i have no problem talkin to hot girls im not shy at all but for some reason i couldnt pull myself to go get her number at the end of class today . I just left i get out at the senior bell which is like 3 min earlier than everyone elses bell shes a grade under me. Im just wondering what happend to me. and if anyones got any mental ideas to make it easier for me to ask for that number because like i said im not shy at all or not confident hell im pretty sure she will even give it to me wit pleasure but agian for some reason i couldnt pull myself to askin her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Skilla_Staz

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Hey, before I head out, write your number down so I can give you a call sometime.


Bam there you go.
 

djweses89

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haha i know its that easy just i was wonder if there some reason that made me kind of choke and i know its not bein shy cus like i said no problem wit me talking to any girl mabey its just cus these new found confidence is new to me and im not used to it yet
 

gyrahf

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Do the three-second rule when you see her next or think about her number. Don't go more than 3 seconds without making a move, it's too much time for your mind to think about all the things that could go wrong/be awkward.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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