"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I want to smell good what are some good colognes
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
nmartinez12443
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Paradiddle
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This is still my all time favorite. I discovered this back in 1990 and never looked back. I hardly wear cologne these days but that's the one I would wear most of the time if I did.I have also liked Davidoff Cool Water. That's an old one but the smell is really fresh. After an intense workout and shower, just wear this cologne and you will feel fresh as **** through out the day.
To me Cool Water is the least "intrusive" out of the ones I've tried.
As far as classics go, a lot of them have brand new flankers released between 2020 and now such as: D&G light blue forever, there are two brand new versions of Cool Water, more Aqua di Gio, another Sauvage next month, JPG Scandal and others that are worth investigating.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
nmartinez12443
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If you like cheapies check out the Armaf brand.
Armaf Club De Nuit Intense Man- 95% clone of aventus.
Armaf Milestone- clone of Milesome Imperial
I also like
Issey miyake- can be had for 25 bucks, imo better than aqua di gio. Strong performance super fresh.
Versace Eau Fraiche- Woody version of light blue. Can't go wrong for summer.
I also like Armani Code Profumo. Darker made for cooler nights, amazing smell strong projection.
I just got around to smelling the original at the mall. The dry down on my skin, I couldn't stomach it at all for some reason. Just like Versace Eros, too much of a party scent for my mature nose.
I've heard about them a lot more on YT lately and I probably will be tempted by the end of the year to get Intense Man.
I'm really interested in a safe alternative to Versace Pour Homme, while it is my only complimented scent thus far, it has brought me nothing but bad luck professionally from 2011 to now, so after this summer no more. I finally tried out the Eau Fraiche at the mall and I liked it.
My current lineup is: Versace Pour Homme, Sauvage EDP, YSL La Nuit De L'homme EDT, Guerlain Vetiver, Tommy, Voyage, Voyage Heritage and Midnight Voyage. I threw out an empty bottle of CK Eternity and VPH is next to go and not be replaced. Sadly I'm now considering looking into Abercrombie and Hollister frags. I never wore their clothing growing up for...reasons.
nmartinez12443
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
100%. Out of all the women I've dated or slept with, I never once wore any cologne when with them. Just a good old shower and deodorant.
Leave.
9-3enthusiast
Senior Don Juan
As far as cheapies go, I've had a couple of good reactions to Joop Homme.
Correctly pronounced as 'Yoop', but I took to calling it 'Yup!' for a while because of the effect it had on specific a g/f at the time.
I'd never really bothered much with after-shaves or scents/colognes (Just shower and deodorant) until she bought me a bottle of it.
Tried a few different ones over the years - cheap and expensive - but never really used any of them much, until just recently.
Woman I'm seeing now, saw my half-bottle of Joop Homme coupla weeks ago and said she liked it.
So I tried it again, and... Yup! - She seems to like it a lot.
It was a joke bruv. But I appreciate you not constantly pushing BS colognes on me
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.