SobchakSecurity
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But don't know what. I am so overwhelmed right now,with everything....
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I want to say something....
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Apocalypse Now
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You had me at hello. 
SobchakSecurity
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No, you don't realize. I mean, after reading all the stuff on here,rather than improving and going forward,and getting ahead in life,I have just held myself back. With everything. Education,social life,sex/women,all of it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
SobchakSecurity
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thing is,I have all this info on here,all this new way of looking at things,yet,I have a hard time making it happen. I mean,I want to bang tons of chicks,would have liked too,but have a hard time figuring out the balance of it all.
SobchakSecurity
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That's it,I read,but can't figure out my own principles. Reading these post's,
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1157534 in particular.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1157534 in particular.
SuavePlaya
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You might read someones advice and might think it's golden, but if you do not do anything with it it's just text. What you need is a rest off this site nobody takes you seriously. What you need to do is suffer more because you aren't hurting enough for you to fix your problems.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
SuavePlaya
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LOL mars the what you need to do is could last forever for this guy.
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Link is broken.SobchakSecurity said:
I think you need to just put those ideas in the back of your mind. Use your own judgement and practice in the field. You'll get shot down alot but you'll learn over time.
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that's just it. I have been unable to jump in and get my feet wet. It's for lots of reasons,and,probably false beliefs. Also,after having read about alot on here,I think I have misunderstood alot about what you say about women and getting out of the matrix.
I mean,I want to do all of this stuff,all these goals,career,family,house,etc, but can't even find a way to start. I mean,esp in terms of going out and trying to get laid,there has long been something holding me back,and has now turned into an anxiety.
I mean,I want to do all of this stuff,all these goals,career,family,house,etc, but can't even find a way to start. I mean,esp in terms of going out and trying to get laid,there has long been something holding me back,and has now turned into an anxiety.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
We feel for you, we really do. You not being able to get laid is just as bad as being held in underground dungeon for 26 years and being raped 3000 times in front of your children while handcufffed to a radiator.SobchakSecurity said:
How do you survive?
SobchakSecurity
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Man,I am not even trying to go there. I mean,that's obviously much worse than my own problems. I am not that self centered....
Igetit!
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Woah,woah,wait a minute. This babbling seems familiar. Wait a minute.....Cru..Crusader? Is that you? You sly dog you. You're back. So,old CapedCrusader08 is back here on the forum. Couldn't stay away,huh? Well I see you've picked right back up where you left off,still whining and complaining instead of taking action. Well,what would I expect. If you were to actually apply some of the advice you've gotten here,and your life started to improve,that just wouldn't be you. I already know there's no point in trying to help you,so what I want to know is,what's with that weird "SobchakSecurity" surname? Where did you get that from?
You're back. Oh well,that's another name to add to my ignore list.
You're back. Oh well,that's another name to add to my ignore list.
SobchakSecurity
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I tried to stay away. I told myself I wasn't going to post until I really had something to say,or contribute. Instead,I find myself going through all these varied advice posts about life,women,being more masculine/take action,the matrix,etc. So yeah. I know this sounds laughable,but saying there is no point in trying to help does hurt just a little bit. It's my own fault cause I am here,instead of there,instead of socializing,meeting new people,etc. I have some problems with people as you can tell.
Well,SobchakSecurity is a reference to and from my all time favorite movie,The Big Lebowski, it's where Walter Sobchak worked.
Well,I promise you this, I won't post as much as I did before.
Well,SobchakSecurity is a reference to and from my all time favorite movie,The Big Lebowski, it's where Walter Sobchak worked.
Well,I promise you this, I won't post as much as I did before.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.