SobchakSecurity
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But don't know what. I am so overwhelmed right now,with everything....
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I want to say something....
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Apocalypse Now
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You had me at hello. 
SobchakSecurity
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No, you don't realize. I mean, after reading all the stuff on here,rather than improving and going forward,and getting ahead in life,I have just held myself back. With everything. Education,social life,sex/women,all of it.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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thing is,I have all this info on here,all this new way of looking at things,yet,I have a hard time making it happen. I mean,I want to bang tons of chicks,would have liked too,but have a hard time figuring out the balance of it all.
SobchakSecurity
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That's it,I read,but can't figure out my own principles. Reading these post's,
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1157534 in particular.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1157534 in particular.
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You might read someones advice and might think it's golden, but if you do not do anything with it it's just text. What you need is a rest off this site nobody takes you seriously. What you need to do is suffer more because you aren't hurting enough for you to fix your problems.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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LOL mars the what you need to do is could last forever for this guy.
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Link is broken.SobchakSecurity said:
I think you need to just put those ideas in the back of your mind. Use your own judgement and practice in the field. You'll get shot down alot but you'll learn over time.
SobchakSecurity
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that's just it. I have been unable to jump in and get my feet wet. It's for lots of reasons,and,probably false beliefs. Also,after having read about alot on here,I think I have misunderstood alot about what you say about women and getting out of the matrix.
I mean,I want to do all of this stuff,all these goals,career,family,house,etc, but can't even find a way to start. I mean,esp in terms of going out and trying to get laid,there has long been something holding me back,and has now turned into an anxiety.
I mean,I want to do all of this stuff,all these goals,career,family,house,etc, but can't even find a way to start. I mean,esp in terms of going out and trying to get laid,there has long been something holding me back,and has now turned into an anxiety.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
We feel for you, we really do. You not being able to get laid is just as bad as being held in underground dungeon for 26 years and being raped 3000 times in front of your children while handcufffed to a radiator.SobchakSecurity said:
How do you survive?
SobchakSecurity
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Man,I am not even trying to go there. I mean,that's obviously much worse than my own problems. I am not that self centered....
Igetit!
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Woah,woah,wait a minute. This babbling seems familiar. Wait a minute.....Cru..Crusader? Is that you? You sly dog you. You're back. So,old CapedCrusader08 is back here on the forum. Couldn't stay away,huh? Well I see you've picked right back up where you left off,still whining and complaining instead of taking action. Well,what would I expect. If you were to actually apply some of the advice you've gotten here,and your life started to improve,that just wouldn't be you. I already know there's no point in trying to help you,so what I want to know is,what's with that weird "SobchakSecurity" surname? Where did you get that from?
You're back. Oh well,that's another name to add to my ignore list.
You're back. Oh well,that's another name to add to my ignore list.
SobchakSecurity
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I tried to stay away. I told myself I wasn't going to post until I really had something to say,or contribute. Instead,I find myself going through all these varied advice posts about life,women,being more masculine/take action,the matrix,etc. So yeah. I know this sounds laughable,but saying there is no point in trying to help does hurt just a little bit. It's my own fault cause I am here,instead of there,instead of socializing,meeting new people,etc. I have some problems with people as you can tell.
Well,SobchakSecurity is a reference to and from my all time favorite movie,The Big Lebowski, it's where Walter Sobchak worked.
Well,I promise you this, I won't post as much as I did before.
Well,SobchakSecurity is a reference to and from my all time favorite movie,The Big Lebowski, it's where Walter Sobchak worked.
Well,I promise you this, I won't post as much as I did before.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.