SobchakSecurity
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But don't know what. I am so overwhelmed right now,with everything....
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I want to say something....
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Apocalypse Now
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You had me at hello. 
SobchakSecurity
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No, you don't realize. I mean, after reading all the stuff on here,rather than improving and going forward,and getting ahead in life,I have just held myself back. With everything. Education,social life,sex/women,all of it.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
SobchakSecurity
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thing is,I have all this info on here,all this new way of looking at things,yet,I have a hard time making it happen. I mean,I want to bang tons of chicks,would have liked too,but have a hard time figuring out the balance of it all.
SobchakSecurity
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That's it,I read,but can't figure out my own principles. Reading these post's,
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1157534 in particular.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1157534 in particular.
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You might read someones advice and might think it's golden, but if you do not do anything with it it's just text. What you need is a rest off this site nobody takes you seriously. What you need to do is suffer more because you aren't hurting enough for you to fix your problems.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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LOL mars the what you need to do is could last forever for this guy.
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Link is broken.SobchakSecurity said:
I think you need to just put those ideas in the back of your mind. Use your own judgement and practice in the field. You'll get shot down alot but you'll learn over time.
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that's just it. I have been unable to jump in and get my feet wet. It's for lots of reasons,and,probably false beliefs. Also,after having read about alot on here,I think I have misunderstood alot about what you say about women and getting out of the matrix.
I mean,I want to do all of this stuff,all these goals,career,family,house,etc, but can't even find a way to start. I mean,esp in terms of going out and trying to get laid,there has long been something holding me back,and has now turned into an anxiety.
I mean,I want to do all of this stuff,all these goals,career,family,house,etc, but can't even find a way to start. I mean,esp in terms of going out and trying to get laid,there has long been something holding me back,and has now turned into an anxiety.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
We feel for you, we really do. You not being able to get laid is just as bad as being held in underground dungeon for 26 years and being raped 3000 times in front of your children while handcufffed to a radiator.SobchakSecurity said:
How do you survive?
SobchakSecurity
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Man,I am not even trying to go there. I mean,that's obviously much worse than my own problems. I am not that self centered....
Igetit!
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Woah,woah,wait a minute. This babbling seems familiar. Wait a minute.....Cru..Crusader? Is that you? You sly dog you. You're back. So,old CapedCrusader08 is back here on the forum. Couldn't stay away,huh? Well I see you've picked right back up where you left off,still whining and complaining instead of taking action. Well,what would I expect. If you were to actually apply some of the advice you've gotten here,and your life started to improve,that just wouldn't be you. I already know there's no point in trying to help you,so what I want to know is,what's with that weird "SobchakSecurity" surname? Where did you get that from?
You're back. Oh well,that's another name to add to my ignore list.
You're back. Oh well,that's another name to add to my ignore list.
SobchakSecurity
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I tried to stay away. I told myself I wasn't going to post until I really had something to say,or contribute. Instead,I find myself going through all these varied advice posts about life,women,being more masculine/take action,the matrix,etc. So yeah. I know this sounds laughable,but saying there is no point in trying to help does hurt just a little bit. It's my own fault cause I am here,instead of there,instead of socializing,meeting new people,etc. I have some problems with people as you can tell.
Well,SobchakSecurity is a reference to and from my all time favorite movie,The Big Lebowski, it's where Walter Sobchak worked.
Well,I promise you this, I won't post as much as I did before.
Well,SobchakSecurity is a reference to and from my all time favorite movie,The Big Lebowski, it's where Walter Sobchak worked.
Well,I promise you this, I won't post as much as I did before.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.