"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I want to improve my life.

Brighty

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Having recently gotten out of a relationship and being back in the game, I've made a few realizations:

1. Women have been the focus of my life ever since I registered on this site. I judge myself on what kind of women I can get, I'm always thinking about them, going out of my way to attract them, and while it works, I have realized that I do not want to define myself and who I am by them.

2. I am 19 years old and I view myself as someone who is creative (I strive to be an entrepreneur or a film maker) and I grow bored life. My days consist of going to class, doing homework, goofing off on facebook, hanging out with friends and playing videogames. On the weekends I go out to various parties, get drunk, and hook up with random girls. In other words, average in every sense of the word.

Lately there has been this nagging feeling that I should be striving for something greater. I need more substance in my life, I want to go out and do more exciting things, to live my life to its fullest. However, being in college and having a rather tight budget makes it a little more difficult. Do you guys have any advice or suggestions that may have worked for you to help lead that more "go get-em" or "alpha male" lifestyle? Any particular things or clubs I should be out on the lookout for, anything that you guys would recommend?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Brighty

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Er... if I said I wanted to improve my life to help me attract girls would this get more attention? :confused:
 

lorekeeper

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probably not, but you DID post this at 5am ;)

my suggestion: volunteer for something. not only will it give you a feeling of accomplishment, but you ill be helping someone, and it's pretty cheap to volunteer ;)
 

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Any suggestions on what to volunteer for? Or any general principles or activities that will make my life more engaging and fun?
 

lorekeeper

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I'm not one to give advice for it. I'm still on my journey ;)

I do know that I decided to donate blood a couple of days ago and felt good after doing so, even if it was a little bit It gave me a good mood boost. I was joking around with the lady volunteers, yes, all of them were over 65 years old :p but it's things like this that will eventually allow me to get over my social anxiety problem.

Is there anything in your area that lists volunteer positions?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I love making films too, dude. Put aside the video games and make a small film. Doesn't have to be long. Grab a couple of friends and just shoot and edit your own film. Doing this, you will invest your time into something rather than girls and your hard work will pay off.
 
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