"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I want to improve my life.

Brighty

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Having recently gotten out of a relationship and being back in the game, I've made a few realizations:

1. Women have been the focus of my life ever since I registered on this site. I judge myself on what kind of women I can get, I'm always thinking about them, going out of my way to attract them, and while it works, I have realized that I do not want to define myself and who I am by them.

2. I am 19 years old and I view myself as someone who is creative (I strive to be an entrepreneur or a film maker) and I grow bored life. My days consist of going to class, doing homework, goofing off on facebook, hanging out with friends and playing videogames. On the weekends I go out to various parties, get drunk, and hook up with random girls. In other words, average in every sense of the word.

Lately there has been this nagging feeling that I should be striving for something greater. I need more substance in my life, I want to go out and do more exciting things, to live my life to its fullest. However, being in college and having a rather tight budget makes it a little more difficult. Do you guys have any advice or suggestions that may have worked for you to help lead that more "go get-em" or "alpha male" lifestyle? Any particular things or clubs I should be out on the lookout for, anything that you guys would recommend?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Brighty

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Er... if I said I wanted to improve my life to help me attract girls would this get more attention? :confused:
 

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probably not, but you DID post this at 5am ;)

my suggestion: volunteer for something. not only will it give you a feeling of accomplishment, but you ill be helping someone, and it's pretty cheap to volunteer ;)
 

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Any suggestions on what to volunteer for? Or any general principles or activities that will make my life more engaging and fun?
 

lorekeeper

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I'm not one to give advice for it. I'm still on my journey ;)

I do know that I decided to donate blood a couple of days ago and felt good after doing so, even if it was a little bit It gave me a good mood boost. I was joking around with the lady volunteers, yes, all of them were over 65 years old :p but it's things like this that will eventually allow me to get over my social anxiety problem.

Is there anything in your area that lists volunteer positions?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I love making films too, dude. Put aside the video games and make a small film. Doesn't have to be long. Grab a couple of friends and just shoot and edit your own film. Doing this, you will invest your time into something rather than girls and your hard work will pay off.
 
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