"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I want to improve my life.

Brighty

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Having recently gotten out of a relationship and being back in the game, I've made a few realizations:

1. Women have been the focus of my life ever since I registered on this site. I judge myself on what kind of women I can get, I'm always thinking about them, going out of my way to attract them, and while it works, I have realized that I do not want to define myself and who I am by them.

2. I am 19 years old and I view myself as someone who is creative (I strive to be an entrepreneur or a film maker) and I grow bored life. My days consist of going to class, doing homework, goofing off on facebook, hanging out with friends and playing videogames. On the weekends I go out to various parties, get drunk, and hook up with random girls. In other words, average in every sense of the word.

Lately there has been this nagging feeling that I should be striving for something greater. I need more substance in my life, I want to go out and do more exciting things, to live my life to its fullest. However, being in college and having a rather tight budget makes it a little more difficult. Do you guys have any advice or suggestions that may have worked for you to help lead that more "go get-em" or "alpha male" lifestyle? Any particular things or clubs I should be out on the lookout for, anything that you guys would recommend?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Brighty

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Er... if I said I wanted to improve my life to help me attract girls would this get more attention? :confused:
 

lorekeeper

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probably not, but you DID post this at 5am ;)

my suggestion: volunteer for something. not only will it give you a feeling of accomplishment, but you ill be helping someone, and it's pretty cheap to volunteer ;)
 

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Any suggestions on what to volunteer for? Or any general principles or activities that will make my life more engaging and fun?
 

lorekeeper

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I'm not one to give advice for it. I'm still on my journey ;)

I do know that I decided to donate blood a couple of days ago and felt good after doing so, even if it was a little bit It gave me a good mood boost. I was joking around with the lady volunteers, yes, all of them were over 65 years old :p but it's things like this that will eventually allow me to get over my social anxiety problem.

Is there anything in your area that lists volunteer positions?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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oscarxp25

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I love making films too, dude. Put aside the video games and make a small film. Doesn't have to be long. Grab a couple of friends and just shoot and edit your own film. Doing this, you will invest your time into something rather than girls and your hard work will pay off.
 
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