"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I want to get into a positive mood before my semester starts, any advice?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You need to clear your mind.
Sit down in a relatively comfortable and distraction-free place. Listen to your thoughts, pay attention to how you feel. How bad is it?
Now you need to turn it off. Meditation works.
Close your eyes, and focus on the sound of your heartbeat, breathing... anything. Your mind usually needs something to do, that's why you focus on something external. By doing this you are calming yourself, and training yourself to control your thoughts.
This is something you do regularly. 10-15min a day is good. If its really bad, do it more often.
Now you need to think positive. Look at the bright side of the situation whenever you can, and when its appropriate.
dont listen to this crap just man upAlle_Gory said:You need to get rid of those negative thoughts, that's whats causing your negativity. They can be a result of something someone has said to you, a negative idea that you found and you can't stop thinking about it, or maybe its frustration for whatever reason and you are manifesting it.
You need to clear your mind.
Sit down in a relatively comfortable and distraction-free place. Listen to your thoughts, pay attention to how you feel. How bad is it?
Now you need to turn it off. Meditation works.
Close your eyes, and focus on the sound of your heartbeat, breathing... anything. Your mind usually needs something to do, that's why you focus on something external. By doing this you are calming yourself, and training yourself to control your thoughts.
This is something you do regularly. 10-15min a day is good. If its really bad, do it more often.
Now you need to think positive. Look at the bright side of the situation whenever you can, and when its appropriate.
That doesn't even mean anything.DamHE said:dont listen to this crap just man up
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The Dreamer
Don Juan
DamHE said:dont listen to this crap just man up
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