"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I want to get a cat

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I like the idea of getting a cat from the shelter. Those of you who have cats, what kind do you have? What are the pros and cons of different kinds of cats in terms of likely future health problems? Do most hotels let you bring a cat with you into the hotel when you travel?
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I was always a 'Dog Person' while growing up, however, a few of my previously girlfriends have owned Cats, and over the years, I have started to like them more. If I lived in an apartment that allowed pets, I'd consider a cat. My ex-girlfriend hat a British Short-hair. One of my earlier girlfriends, had a Cat named Walter, which I was allergic to. I'm glad that allergy must have been specific to that Cat, as around others, I seem to be fine.
 

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I was always a 'Dog Person' while growing up, however, a few of my previously girlfriends have owned Cats, and over the years, I have started to like them more. If I lived in an apartment that allowed pets, I'd consider a cat. My ex-girlfriend hat a British Short-hair. One of my earlier girlfriends, had a Cat named Walter, which I was allergic to. I'm glad that allergy must have been specific to that Cat, as around others, I seem to be fine.
I am thinking about getting a Siamese cat. They are beautiful! I'm just not sure if cats are like dogs in that certain types of dogs are more prone to health problems than others. I'm not sure if cats are like that in that regard?
 

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Snowshoes are kind of unique, and much heal their than Siamese, who can be very inbred.

The other cool cat to have is a Scottish Fold, even trippier if it’s polydactyl.

I used to refer to mine as my Scottish 4WD kitty.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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At 62, you should be reducing your level of responsibilities, not taking on new ones. A cat could live until you are 75 or beyond. Do you really want to spend your 70s at veterinarian's appointments and buying cat food?

A lot of women also perceive single men owning cats as a bit odd.
 

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A lot of women also perceive single men owning cats as a bit odd.
Surveys show that some women straight up find it a turn-off if a man owns a cat because cat-ownership is perceived as more feminine.

However, it could definitely have a positive effect with some cat-loving women. Overall it will harm your numbers game, but will help you niche down if you really like cats and like women who like cats.

I don't have a cat because allergies. But I do find them adorable. :love:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've heard women in social settings make fun of men that have cats. I certainly wouldn't let that stop me.

Tabby's are a lot of fun. Playful and friendly. They are the most dog like of all cats I've been around.

I think Leukemia is pretty common in cats. It claimed one of mine but she was 17yo.

Some cats are terrified of traveling, however some are fine with it. I think it has a lot to do with at what age they started traveling.
 
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