"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I want to get a cat

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I like the idea of getting a cat from the shelter. Those of you who have cats, what kind do you have? What are the pros and cons of different kinds of cats in terms of likely future health problems? Do most hotels let you bring a cat with you into the hotel when you travel?
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I was always a 'Dog Person' while growing up, however, a few of my previously girlfriends have owned Cats, and over the years, I have started to like them more. If I lived in an apartment that allowed pets, I'd consider a cat. My ex-girlfriend hat a British Short-hair. One of my earlier girlfriends, had a Cat named Walter, which I was allergic to. I'm glad that allergy must have been specific to that Cat, as around others, I seem to be fine.
 

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I was always a 'Dog Person' while growing up, however, a few of my previously girlfriends have owned Cats, and over the years, I have started to like them more. If I lived in an apartment that allowed pets, I'd consider a cat. My ex-girlfriend hat a British Short-hair. One of my earlier girlfriends, had a Cat named Walter, which I was allergic to. I'm glad that allergy must have been specific to that Cat, as around others, I seem to be fine.
I am thinking about getting a Siamese cat. They are beautiful! I'm just not sure if cats are like dogs in that certain types of dogs are more prone to health problems than others. I'm not sure if cats are like that in that regard?
 

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Snowshoes are kind of unique, and much heal their than Siamese, who can be very inbred.

The other cool cat to have is a Scottish Fold, even trippier if it’s polydactyl.

I used to refer to mine as my Scottish 4WD kitty.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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At 62, you should be reducing your level of responsibilities, not taking on new ones. A cat could live until you are 75 or beyond. Do you really want to spend your 70s at veterinarian's appointments and buying cat food?

A lot of women also perceive single men owning cats as a bit odd.
 

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A lot of women also perceive single men owning cats as a bit odd.
Surveys show that some women straight up find it a turn-off if a man owns a cat because cat-ownership is perceived as more feminine.

However, it could definitely have a positive effect with some cat-loving women. Overall it will harm your numbers game, but will help you niche down if you really like cats and like women who like cats.

I don't have a cat because allergies. But I do find them adorable. :love:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've heard women in social settings make fun of men that have cats. I certainly wouldn't let that stop me.

Tabby's are a lot of fun. Playful and friendly. They are the most dog like of all cats I've been around.

I think Leukemia is pretty common in cats. It claimed one of mine but she was 17yo.

Some cats are terrified of traveling, however some are fine with it. I think it has a lot to do with at what age they started traveling.
 
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