"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I want to get a cat

davidsonj73

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I like the idea of getting a cat from the shelter. Those of you who have cats, what kind do you have? What are the pros and cons of different kinds of cats in terms of likely future health problems? Do most hotels let you bring a cat with you into the hotel when you travel?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I was always a 'Dog Person' while growing up, however, a few of my previously girlfriends have owned Cats, and over the years, I have started to like them more. If I lived in an apartment that allowed pets, I'd consider a cat. My ex-girlfriend hat a British Short-hair. One of my earlier girlfriends, had a Cat named Walter, which I was allergic to. I'm glad that allergy must have been specific to that Cat, as around others, I seem to be fine.
 

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I was always a 'Dog Person' while growing up, however, a few of my previously girlfriends have owned Cats, and over the years, I have started to like them more. If I lived in an apartment that allowed pets, I'd consider a cat. My ex-girlfriend hat a British Short-hair. One of my earlier girlfriends, had a Cat named Walter, which I was allergic to. I'm glad that allergy must have been specific to that Cat, as around others, I seem to be fine.
I am thinking about getting a Siamese cat. They are beautiful! I'm just not sure if cats are like dogs in that certain types of dogs are more prone to health problems than others. I'm not sure if cats are like that in that regard?
 

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Snowshoes are kind of unique, and much heal their than Siamese, who can be very inbred.

The other cool cat to have is a Scottish Fold, even trippier if it’s polydactyl.

I used to refer to mine as my Scottish 4WD kitty.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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At 62, you should be reducing your level of responsibilities, not taking on new ones. A cat could live until you are 75 or beyond. Do you really want to spend your 70s at veterinarian's appointments and buying cat food?

A lot of women also perceive single men owning cats as a bit odd.
 

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A lot of women also perceive single men owning cats as a bit odd.
Surveys show that some women straight up find it a turn-off if a man owns a cat because cat-ownership is perceived as more feminine.

However, it could definitely have a positive effect with some cat-loving women. Overall it will harm your numbers game, but will help you niche down if you really like cats and like women who like cats.

I don't have a cat because allergies. But I do find them adorable. :love:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've heard women in social settings make fun of men that have cats. I certainly wouldn't let that stop me.

Tabby's are a lot of fun. Playful and friendly. They are the most dog like of all cats I've been around.

I think Leukemia is pretty common in cats. It claimed one of mine but she was 17yo.

Some cats are terrified of traveling, however some are fine with it. I think it has a lot to do with at what age they started traveling.
 
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