"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I want to ask this girl out but....

benindeeto

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Hey guys, i saw this forum linked from another forum.

Here's my problem, I saw this chick on the bus the other day. i remembered her from elementary school (Im currently in college) but i couldnt think of her name so next time i see her i think i've got my ice breaker which is basically talking about how i know her from somewhere, what have you been up to, kinda thing.
but what worries me is that she seems like the quiet type and im worried that when i ask her on a date she wont be talking to much and it'll be awkward. only because im more of a listener, i dont really like to talk about myself and girls find it boring when guys talk about themselves too much

any advice?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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GaryNas

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When I was on a "break" with my gf about 2 years ago I saw a girl I went to elementary school with at a local store. I stopped her and said, "Hey, aren't you <blah blah>". I said that I had to go, but that we should get together and I then gave her my number. Two days later she called and we hooked up. The date wasn't too great because it turns out we had absolutely nothing in common, but I'm still glad I did it just to gain experience.

I wouldn't worry about it being awkward, just do your best and whatever happens, happens. You'll never know unless you try.
 

benindeeto

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thanks

if i see her tommorrow, i'll ask her for her number and see where it goes from there

i'll update tommorrow
 

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Have you read the DJ Bible yet?
 

skinnydart

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Yeah, I was kinda wondering about that too, what happens when u are both the quite/listener type? I don't say to much and I really want to ask this girl who is really shy (and sexy) out, but I know she won't say anything. Is this an excuse to break the DJ rules and go do something active (like see a movie), until you get more comfortable around eachother rather than sitting down to a meal to "talk and get to know eachother"?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Even shy people talk. You just have to make the extra effort to put them at ease.
 
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