spider_007
Master Don Juan
is it me or do you all like getting slaped. Ask your selfs why you didn't do it? What you are afraid of? and then work on it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I want everybody here to SLAP ME!
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Exactly!
Dont get it into your head you have to be picking up every time you go out, otherwise this will become your outlook every single time you go out, and it will ruin the fun! It is better to enjoy your night, than to pick up IMHO. I got into a bad routine with my friends, where we just went out picking up all the time, and after nearly a year, we realised we had lost the entire point of going out! We had sex, we had numbers, we had dates, but we were still out picking up randoms all the time and not actually enjoying the music and the environment!