"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I wanna fvckkkk this girl sooo bad

Scars

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But she won't do anything unless we're dating. And I don't want a girlfriend right now. She's really attractive, but I just like my freedom. We like made out and stuff, slept in the same bed, and she was like wrapping her legs around me but when I went in for it she likes. I would only do that if we're dating. It kinda sucks. But she wants to hang out again this weekend. I'm not sure if I should try again or not. I think it might happen this time, something tells me. But there's also the possibility that it wont happen, and I don't want to offend her by trying. Crap.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bonafide

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Scars said:
But she won't do anything unless we're dating. And I don't want a girlfriend right now. She's really attractive, but I just like my freedom. We like made out and stuff, slept in the same bed, and she was like wrapping her legs around me but when I went in for it she likes. I would only do that if we're dating. It kinda sucks. But she wants to hang out again this weekend. I'm not sure if I should try again or not. I think it might happen this time, something tells me. But there's also the possibility that it wont happen, and I don't want to offend her by trying. Crap.

Hold up, she wrapped her legs around you...while you both were sleeping in the same bed? And wait let me get this straight, you two didn't have sex? Lol well thats just about as close as your gonna get. :crackup:
 

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Keep teasing her sexually, and make the barrier hers. Tell her what you want to do to her in some detail (when the moment's right of course), then say something like "but I know we can't as we're not dating."

Or learn the art of a good freeze out. It should never come across as sulking or anger, just that you've abruptly lost interest, like the moment's been killed but you're a big enough man to take it into your stride.

You might need to persist with these a few times, and be sure to mix them up a bit.

Happy days!
 

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Scars said:
But she won't do anything unless we're dating. And I don't want a girlfriend right now. She's really attractive, but I just like my freedom. We like made out and stuff, slept in the same bed, and she was like wrapping her legs around me but when I went in for it she likes. I would only do that if we're dating. It kinda sucks. But she wants to hang out again this weekend. I'm not sure if I should try again or not. I think it might happen this time, something tells me. But there's also the possibility that it wont happen, and I don't want to offend her by trying. Crap.
Wait, so you're saying she will only sleep with you and let you inside her only if you are in a committed relationship so you won't dump her ass after you've done your thing? What a bvtch. You don't need her. Find a girl who's slept with 12 guys and will let you do your thing without any type of commitment.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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azanon

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Agree to it, then break up with her a few days later. You folks and your overdeveloped "moralities".

"I'm sorry, but I don't think this is going to work out between us. Bu-Bye!".
 

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Dude I've learned that its always better to say sorry than to take no action. If she doesnt like it then you can always say sorry, if she does then your all good. Whats there to lose? her friendship? na, and if she didn't wanna talk to you after that, do you really want to be a 'girlfriend' to her?
 
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