Okay, so I fell for this woman. She is a single mom, early thirties, and so forth. I really fell for her, and put up with her for about two years. However, I found out she was the mistress of a well to do guy, had a child with him and is being thoroughly supported by him financially. The guy is very wealthy, about 20 years older than her and gave her a kid. She also played the field with other guys, doesn't work at all, and seems to just be partying. So one day I got fed up and called her a gold digging ho and kicked her out of my apartment. Apparently, she got upset. Man, I put up with it for two years. Perhaps I should've just moved on, but I vented. Was I that bad???? She played me like a fool.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I vented out, how wrong was it?
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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In my opinion, venting usually occurs from the buildup of unexpressed emotions over time that end up dripping like a leaky faucet into a pitcher. The pitcher holds a lot of water, but once it overflows, it overflows.
So think about whether you vented because you were upset with the actions she was allowed to get away with repeatedly by you or because you were upset with your own inability to act in a way that would have prevented this from happening or with you kicking her to the curb much sooner.
In my experiences, venting is really a reaction to the frustrations you feel inside yourself rather than a reaction to an outside action...
Just my 2 cents...
So think about whether you vented because you were upset with the actions she was allowed to get away with repeatedly by you or because you were upset with your own inability to act in a way that would have prevented this from happening or with you kicking her to the curb much sooner.
In my experiences, venting is really a reaction to the frustrations you feel inside yourself rather than a reaction to an outside action...
Just my 2 cents...
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Who cares if she got upset? She's a selfish ****.
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You reacted like any reasonable man would do.rcast9999 said:
If that was me, I'd have done exactly the same thing as you and I wouldn't feel iota of guilt about it.
Hopefully you've learnt your lesson and will wise up to these superhoes.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
With all due respect, you're being a pvssy concerning yourself about whether you should have vented or not. You are a MAN, and you had a right to vent. DO NOT question it, and whatever you do, UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES, APOLOGIZE TO THIS FEMALE!!!!!!
In your opinion, what do you think she sees in you?
In your opinion, what do you think she sees in you?