Okay, so I fell for this woman. She is a single mom, early thirties, and so forth. I really fell for her, and put up with her for about two years. However, I found out she was the mistress of a well to do guy, had a child with him and is being thoroughly supported by him financially. The guy is very wealthy, about 20 years older than her and gave her a kid. She also played the field with other guys, doesn't work at all, and seems to just be partying. So one day I got fed up and called her a gold digging ho and kicked her out of my apartment. Apparently, she got upset. Man, I put up with it for two years. Perhaps I should've just moved on, but I vented. Was I that bad???? She played me like a fool.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I vented out, how wrong was it?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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In my opinion, venting usually occurs from the buildup of unexpressed emotions over time that end up dripping like a leaky faucet into a pitcher. The pitcher holds a lot of water, but once it overflows, it overflows.
So think about whether you vented because you were upset with the actions she was allowed to get away with repeatedly by you or because you were upset with your own inability to act in a way that would have prevented this from happening or with you kicking her to the curb much sooner.
In my experiences, venting is really a reaction to the frustrations you feel inside yourself rather than a reaction to an outside action...
Just my 2 cents...
So think about whether you vented because you were upset with the actions she was allowed to get away with repeatedly by you or because you were upset with your own inability to act in a way that would have prevented this from happening or with you kicking her to the curb much sooner.
In my experiences, venting is really a reaction to the frustrations you feel inside yourself rather than a reaction to an outside action...
Just my 2 cents...
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Who cares if she got upset? She's a selfish ****.
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You reacted like any reasonable man would do.rcast9999 said:
If that was me, I'd have done exactly the same thing as you and I wouldn't feel iota of guilt about it.
Hopefully you've learnt your lesson and will wise up to these superhoes.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
With all due respect, you're being a pvssy concerning yourself about whether you should have vented or not. You are a MAN, and you had a right to vent. DO NOT question it, and whatever you do, UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES, APOLOGIZE TO THIS FEMALE!!!!!!
In your opinion, what do you think she sees in you?
In your opinion, what do you think she sees in you?