"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
i try to set up a date and she goes..
- Thread starter mrben117
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Whether she's saying truth or not, what she said is enough to drop all the interest on your part, and focus it on something else.. Even if she comes through later on.. Ideally you should have someone else later.. But if not, you should say you'd give it a thought.. Then call a date on your terms..
Leaving her alone, means, you are doing the coming back to her, not the other way around.. That is trully beta.. Don't do it.
Whatever NEXT means to you.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
do you suggest that i still talk to her? like i said, i don't just want to be friends with her. the friends zone is the most horrible thing imaginable.
LostAndConfused
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DJ1234
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From this it sounds like she might be honest, but I wouldn't just wait around for her so that when SHE's Ready she can hang out with you...but no counter offer like how about next week?mrben117 said:
I would really think about nexting her or going out with her on your terms and if she does that again, then i'd def. drop her...
ready123
Master Don Juan
wtf is up with guys nexting every damn girl who doesn't breathe in their direction, it's hella retarded. it just shows a lack of experience and that you're so scared of being hurt you think you gain something by blowing yourself out before the girl has even given you a reason to do so
you ever figure the girl might genuinely be busy? don't you have other priorities in your life? work, school, hobbies family, other friends?
take her on her word unless you see a pattern otherwise or she explicity tells you no. if she had zero interest in you, she didn't have to give you a reason or a timeframe
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ready123 said:
If girl is genuinely busy then she would have no problem making up to the guy.. Such as contacting him to set things up, instead of waiting for him to do that..
Nah, I don't think women are ever genuinely busy.. Not for me at least.. They can be genuinely busy for some beta guy, but when it comes to me I demand her to allocate time for me.. Otherwise she is screwing it up..
With YOUR mind set, she can never screw up.. Because you are always available.. Congratulations! You've ruined all the fun for a woman.. Now the only way she can enjoy you is by manipulating you, and making you wait for sex, if ever..
PlaysToWin
Don Juan
If 'next' means you are ruling out any chance of anything in the future with her then I disagree with 'next'. I think it's a little rash. If 'next' just means to spin other plates while keeping the doors open if she ever gets back in contact with concrete plans, then I agree with next.
Basically, leave her alone. If she comes calling back next week then by all means entertain any suggested plans that she makes. Just don't make any plans of your own until she makes a solid plan and follows through with it and you have a good time.
And in the meantime, spin a few other plates to make sure you're not sitting waiting on her slowly developing onitis.
ready123
Master Don Juan
it's not about looking unavailable and making her chase. it's about having enough social awareness that you don't act like a social retard. social retardation = blowing yourself out prematurely on some neutral sht and thinking it's cool because you're trying to maintain a strict alpha male image that only exists inside your head
quality women do not obey you, especially when they don't know you. that's common sense
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.