"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I tried a thing!

freshprince

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So last night my friend and i caught a bus together we saw this nice looking chick, between 1-10 i would rate her as a 7. I turned around and told her something like i regret not sitting in that seat since she was there (or something like that) my friend heard and told me that i could still go and sit next to the girl, i did not want to because i never tried hustling a chick in a bus before but if i backed down my friend would have thought i was a pvssy or something so i did it anyways. She was nervous and started blushing. I formed a conversation and then proceed to ask her basic questions. I soon found out she attended the same university as i did....go figure! later on in the conversation i asked for the digits since we were both going the same universities it seemed okay to me, she replied "I don't give my numbers out to stranger"____? in my mind i was like what the deuce! but i did not care anyways. I probably wasn't even going to call her if i got it. I reached my destination and got the hell out of the bus. When i did i saw like disappointment on my friends face.
I thought i did okay? did u guys think so?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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**** your friend man. I get the impression you just did that for him. You should have talked that girl because you wanted to get to know her, not because you were afraid of disapointing your friend; she probably picked up on this.
 

Darth_Qurashi

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wats wrong ? some girls dont give their numbers to strangers. its no big deal. not like its ur fault.

even if it was, u'll learn from experience, just keep trying!
 

The Experience

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Dude you asked for her number and got rejected = success.
Realize that everything you do to expand your comfort zone is a win.
 

AlexLefty

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^ agreed. now i just have to put that in practice ;o
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Kenny Powers

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Weekend nights at my college the busses are always packed with drunk-ass kids and its freaking awesome. I actually got a girls # on the bus once. I texted her saying "hey this is _____ from the bus last night. Haha I'm not as sketchy as that sounds."

She didn't respond but it was still a win. How many guys can say they got a number on the freaking bus.

The drunk bus ride is a surprisingly great way to meet girls, especially when its really crowded because everyone is smooshed together and its so easy to casually strike up a conversation with girls. The environment is so positive and everyone is in a good mood and excited to go out and party.

I think this weekend I'll skip the parties and just stay on the bus lol :D
 

Yogibear

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You did fine dude. The goal is to just keep practicing talking to girls
 
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