"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I told her she can ask me any question she wants...

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I've gone on a few casual dates with this girl and on the last date we went for dinner and then dessert at some lounge. At the lounge we decided to ask eachother 1 question that we don't know about the other person. Her question to me was..."when was your last relationship?". My answer was short & sweet..."last spring, we went our seperate ways".

My question is..what kind of test is this question from this girl? Do girls who only have good IL would ask this type of question? Whats your experience been like? I'm curious...

Thanks guys,
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I find the inquisition usually starts in the first date/ get together after you've nailed her for the first time.

JJ
 

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in this case..it didn't start until several dates after...maybe she's 'sh!t testing me'?
 

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Generally the inquistion comes when the girl feels a sense of emotional attachment.

Personally I would take her question as a sign that she is feeling you out, getting a sense of if she has the chance of a realtionship with you.

JJ
 

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so its part of the screening process..got it....any other feedback if its a positive sign? thanks guys
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She wants to know if you are damaged goods, basically whether you are on the rebound.
 
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