Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
Well technically it was her answering machine.
Restraining order narrowly averted!
Restraining order narrowly averted!
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I told a girl I love her
- Thread starter Jack McCrack
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
I can think of better ways.
Like presenting her with a giant dildo and my buttcrack.
Like presenting her with a giant dildo and my buttcrack.
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
nice blow'n it
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
aww crap my covers blown dudes what do i do
i've got a blanket and some duct tape
i've got a blanket and some duct tape
Jack McCrack said:
so down there bro. you dont love her yet, you just like her. love is a feeling that develops over time and is more serious than liking. when you love someone, you would do anything for them, sacrififice yourself for them. and if your fretting about telling her you love her, then you really dont. cuz if u loved her you wouldnt be ashamed of saying it, because you mean it.
but just from saying it, your not in deep doody yet. jus keep doing wat u do. from the way you said it in the post, doesnt sound like u were pouring your heart out to her, so u should be fine (unless u did, then she might be freaked out abit) if she asks about it, jus play it cool and dont acknowledge it too much. act like it was nothing. but jus keep doing wat u were doing before, and u should be fine. and dont day the "L" word, until u really mean it. which could be a long time.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
i owe you a beer my friend
*high five*
*high five*
Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
I love you brother!
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
i love everyone in this topic
hugs all around
hugs all around
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The_Unit
Don Juan
don't freak out. The situation is not hopeless. I know there are tons of "rules" on this forum like "don't ever say I love you to a girl" and " dont let her know how you feel" and crap like that. The truth is there are no rules in love, there are only guidelines (if there rules, everyone would be a DJ and there wouldn't be a need for this site). And guidelines do not work in every situation. If you feel like saying "I love you" to her, then do it, and dont think back.
wjh
Master Don Juan
It depends on the context of your "relationship"/friendship/whatever.
If you meant it... and she was someone you would consider an LTR with, who cares?
Even if it was a little too early to really say it, it's not like you told her she was a *** burping sl_t.
Just smile if she brings it up and laugh... But if she senses weakness you'll look like an idiot.
If you meant it... and she was someone you would consider an LTR with, who cares?
Even if it was a little too early to really say it, it's not like you told her she was a *** burping sl_t.
Just smile if she brings it up and laugh... But if she senses weakness you'll look like an idiot.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
*thumbs up*
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
good form old chap
i'll have to persuade her into bed with me
and then tell her
i'll have to persuade her into bed with me
and then tell her
The_Unit
Don Juan
Jack McCrack said:
dont use persuasion or cheap tactics. No smokescreens, no bull****. unless your a player, of course A lot of the "advice" on sosuave.com is crap. And remember, just because she doesn't say it back right away, doesnt mean she doesnt love you. It takes a different time for everyone, thats all.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I also have to agree that just making the statement itself is not necessarily a problem. I agree, if you really do love someone, then its ok to say it. Just one sentence isn't going to give you the ole AFC brand on your ass; its going to be the way you behave most all of the other time. For instance, it is more than possible (people do it every day) to be confident, not supplicate, and act in a patient and DJ way yet tell someone you love that you love them.
So.... just worry about the way you're behaving most of the time. Does this mean you're going to act needy now, for instance? If not, then don't sweat it. One sentence didn't screw you. I hope at least half the guys who did say you were screwed were just joking around.
So.... just worry about the way you're behaving most of the time. Does this mean you're going to act needy now, for instance? If not, then don't sweat it. One sentence didn't screw you. I hope at least half the guys who did say you were screwed were just joking around.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
Does chloroform count?The_Unit said: