Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
Well technically it was her answering machine.
Restraining order narrowly averted!
Restraining order narrowly averted!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I told a girl I love her
- Thread starter Jack McCrack
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
I can think of better ways.
Like presenting her with a giant dildo and my buttcrack.
Like presenting her with a giant dildo and my buttcrack.
Fenderules
Master Don Juan
nice blow'n it
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
aww crap my covers blown dudes what do i do
i've got a blanket and some duct tape
i've got a blanket and some duct tape
Jack McCrack said:
so down there bro. you dont love her yet, you just like her. love is a feeling that develops over time and is more serious than liking. when you love someone, you would do anything for them, sacrififice yourself for them. and if your fretting about telling her you love her, then you really dont. cuz if u loved her you wouldnt be ashamed of saying it, because you mean it.
but just from saying it, your not in deep doody yet. jus keep doing wat u do. from the way you said it in the post, doesnt sound like u were pouring your heart out to her, so u should be fine (unless u did, then she might be freaked out abit) if she asks about it, jus play it cool and dont acknowledge it too much. act like it was nothing. but jus keep doing wat u were doing before, and u should be fine. and dont day the "L" word, until u really mean it. which could be a long time.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
i owe you a beer my friend
*high five*
*high five*
Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
I love you brother!
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
i love everyone in this topic
hugs all around
hugs all around
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The_Unit
Don Juan
don't freak out. The situation is not hopeless. I know there are tons of "rules" on this forum like "don't ever say I love you to a girl" and " dont let her know how you feel" and crap like that. The truth is there are no rules in love, there are only guidelines (if there rules, everyone would be a DJ and there wouldn't be a need for this site). And guidelines do not work in every situation. If you feel like saying "I love you" to her, then do it, and dont think back.
wjh
Master Don Juan
It depends on the context of your "relationship"/friendship/whatever.
If you meant it... and she was someone you would consider an LTR with, who cares?
Even if it was a little too early to really say it, it's not like you told her she was a *** burping sl_t.
Just smile if she brings it up and laugh... But if she senses weakness you'll look like an idiot.
If you meant it... and she was someone you would consider an LTR with, who cares?
Even if it was a little too early to really say it, it's not like you told her she was a *** burping sl_t.
Just smile if she brings it up and laugh... But if she senses weakness you'll look like an idiot.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
*thumbs up*
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
good form old chap
i'll have to persuade her into bed with me
and then tell her
i'll have to persuade her into bed with me
and then tell her
The_Unit
Don Juan
Jack McCrack said:
dont use persuasion or cheap tactics. No smokescreens, no bull****. unless your a player, of course A lot of the "advice" on sosuave.com is crap. And remember, just because she doesn't say it back right away, doesnt mean she doesnt love you. It takes a different time for everyone, thats all.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I also have to agree that just making the statement itself is not necessarily a problem. I agree, if you really do love someone, then its ok to say it. Just one sentence isn't going to give you the ole AFC brand on your ass; its going to be the way you behave most all of the other time. For instance, it is more than possible (people do it every day) to be confident, not supplicate, and act in a patient and DJ way yet tell someone you love that you love them.
So.... just worry about the way you're behaving most of the time. Does this mean you're going to act needy now, for instance? If not, then don't sweat it. One sentence didn't screw you. I hope at least half the guys who did say you were screwed were just joking around.
So.... just worry about the way you're behaving most of the time. Does this mean you're going to act needy now, for instance? If not, then don't sweat it. One sentence didn't screw you. I hope at least half the guys who did say you were screwed were just joking around.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
Does chloroform count?The_Unit said: