"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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One on One

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I can't seem to shake this problem. I was doing well for a while, but it's gotten worse as I've had less time to absorb this site, less time to socialize, and more time sitting lonely bored at work for 8 hours a day watching the life get sucked out of me. Anyways, my problem is that whenever I like a girl, I make this stupid assumption that she knows I like her. So, I make it hard on myself that way. I erroneously think that when I say anything to her, she's going to see through it and now I'm trying to ask her out eventually. Has anybody else dealt with this? How can I get past it?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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This is one of the most primitive questions I've read since I joined, and coming from someone with almost 1000 posts is absurd. I don't think I can tell you anything that you haven't read here before.
 

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me too, but we have something in common

how much time do we spend alone rather then interacting with people.... i bet its more alone , adleast thats with me

theres the question ... you supply the answer
 

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Originally posted by One on One
I can't seem to shake this problem. I was doing well for a while, but it's gotten worse as I've had less time to absorb this site, less time to socialize, and more time sitting lonely bored at work for 8 hours a day watching the life get sucked out of me. Anyways, my problem is that whenever I like a girl, I make this stupid assumption that she knows I like her. So, I make it hard on myself that way. I erroneously think that when I say anything to her, she's going to see through it and now I'm trying to ask her out eventually. Has anybody else dealt with this? How can I get past it?
See through it? Uh, isn't the whole point to pick her up? She already knows this from the time you say Hi.
 

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I know posting lines from movies has become a bit trite on this board..but..remember that line from the movie swingers when they're in the vegas bar...

Trent: Girls dress this way because they want you to notice them...they already know what you want...DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR IT!

My thoughts exactly. They already know guys are going to approach them. That's why they're dubbed attion wh*res..they love it..they thrive on it. But, being sappy and needy isnt the way to approach it. Give a little attentino..then pull back. Be indirect. Never reveal all your intentions. Like a game of texas holdem...why show all your cards before the game's over...bluff...play the c/f role...be a DJ.

You've been on this site long enough to know the specifcs and the how to of getting a woman's interest level up.

The attitude you should approach is a feeling of NOT GIVING A F*CK =)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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