Cool girl, attractive, smart, ambitious, life in order, has standards, lots in common. She got out of a few year long relationship a few months ago and I met her soon after it ended. We have had some tension going for a while and I have held back since I didn't want to be the rebound guy and have been dating others. When out, I would constantly catch her looking my way and we would inevitably end up hanging out together. She is always in my space and no I don't act like her gay friend. I don't kiss her ass and tease the crap out of her. She never talks about other men or her ex to me, though she does to others.
A few weeks ago, I showed up at the pub and she was with a date. I just said hello and went about my business and peripherally could tell that she was keeping her eye on me. The feeling in the pit of my stomach made me realize that I REALLY like her. This girl is the first in a long time that I just simply like and although I would love to get in her pants, its not my main focus for a change. Yeah, a bit of oneitis, but for me its not common and I don't live every day just trying to get laid. To try and get my head straight, I decided to avoid close situations for a while, not initiate texts and if she initiates, just keep my answers short and closed ended. If she is sitting next to a mutual friend, I sit next to the mutual friend instead of her. I was never rude or ignored her, but just didn't get flirty and treated her like anyone else. She apparently noticed.
I was out last night and ran into her with a friend of hers and again, just said hello, kept it short and went on and chatted with others. The shots started flowing and having not eaten much, I got pretty buzzed, so I decided to step outside for a bit and sat out on the deck. So, she comes out, sits down, we start talking and the subject turns to me apparently acting cold towards her. As much as I tried to tease her and play it off as being her imagination, she wouldn't let it go. I don't remember exactly what she said, but in response and probably due to my buzzed condition, I blurted out: "because I like you too much". I have never in my life wished more to be able to suck words right back in. After a pause, she replied, "I like you too" and paused as if thinking of what to say next. As if on cue, it started pouring rain and we went back inside. Her friend had to go soon after that and she was her friends ride, so that was the end of that.
I really don't know how to proceed from here. I know that those few words may have destroyed any tension that was there and left me wondering if a "but" was coming after the "I like you too".
I know, I know.. spin other plates. I plan to.
I think that I just sank the ship with her before it left the dock and am not sure if there is a next move. My thoughts are to just continue as I was and see if she brings up the big elephant in the room.
Any and all advice to the contrary would be appreciated.
A few weeks ago, I showed up at the pub and she was with a date. I just said hello and went about my business and peripherally could tell that she was keeping her eye on me. The feeling in the pit of my stomach made me realize that I REALLY like her. This girl is the first in a long time that I just simply like and although I would love to get in her pants, its not my main focus for a change. Yeah, a bit of oneitis, but for me its not common and I don't live every day just trying to get laid. To try and get my head straight, I decided to avoid close situations for a while, not initiate texts and if she initiates, just keep my answers short and closed ended. If she is sitting next to a mutual friend, I sit next to the mutual friend instead of her. I was never rude or ignored her, but just didn't get flirty and treated her like anyone else. She apparently noticed.
I was out last night and ran into her with a friend of hers and again, just said hello, kept it short and went on and chatted with others. The shots started flowing and having not eaten much, I got pretty buzzed, so I decided to step outside for a bit and sat out on the deck. So, she comes out, sits down, we start talking and the subject turns to me apparently acting cold towards her. As much as I tried to tease her and play it off as being her imagination, she wouldn't let it go. I don't remember exactly what she said, but in response and probably due to my buzzed condition, I blurted out: "because I like you too much". I have never in my life wished more to be able to suck words right back in. After a pause, she replied, "I like you too" and paused as if thinking of what to say next. As if on cue, it started pouring rain and we went back inside. Her friend had to go soon after that and she was her friends ride, so that was the end of that.
I really don't know how to proceed from here. I know that those few words may have destroyed any tension that was there and left me wondering if a "but" was coming after the "I like you too".
I know, I know.. spin other plates. I plan to.
I think that I just sank the ship with her before it left the dock and am not sure if there is a next move. My thoughts are to just continue as I was and see if she brings up the big elephant in the room.
Any and all advice to the contrary would be appreciated.