"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I think my problem is I'm not chasing enough and showing enough interest

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Because a girl went up to my friend and said I was sexy, but she didn't think I liked her at all because I didn't show any attraction, so she moved on. Another girl got mad at me because I never approached her at some thing. My problem is shouldn't I let the women do the chasing and I thought if you showed interest you're screwed pretty much.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Good interest: "Oh you like me? Maybe I like you, maybe I don't. Find out."

Bad interest: "I LOVE YOU. PLEASE TALK TO ME."

Because a girl went up to my friend and said I was sexy, but she didn't think I liked her at all because I didn't show any attraction, so she moved on.
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For fvcks sake. Did you talk to her? Flirt with her? Make her laugh, call her cute? Then tell her to buzz off? Because that usually works wonders with the proper delivery.

My problem is shouldn't I let the women do the chasing and I thought if you showed interest you're screwed pretty much.
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She already did the chasing AND the initiation AND she was completely blunt about it. You didn't respond. Bad, bad job. Awful bad.

Try harder.

You've got them interested, so you're clearly doing something right. Do not change that. Now you need to follow through all the way.
 
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Ya I suck at sealing the deal. The only girls I've hooked up with were them throwing themselves at me. I've never had to initiate anything. This is when looks suck ass for me.
 
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Ringleader41 said:
Ya I suck at sealing the deal. The only girls I've hooked up with were them throwing themselves at me. I've never had to initiate anything. This is when looks suck ass for me.
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You ever have a girlfriend or a girl who was a friend and you were cool with? Someone you can talk to and treat like a guy, but with kid gloves.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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