Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I think my problem is I'm not chasing enough and showing enough interest

Ringleader41

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Because a girl went up to my friend and said I was sexy, but she didn't think I liked her at all because I didn't show any attraction, so she moved on. Another girl got mad at me because I never approached her at some thing. My problem is shouldn't I let the women do the chasing and I thought if you showed interest you're screwed pretty much.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Good interest: "Oh you like me? Maybe I like you, maybe I don't. Find out."

Bad interest: "I LOVE YOU. PLEASE TALK TO ME."

Because a girl went up to my friend and said I was sexy, but she didn't think I liked her at all because I didn't show any attraction, so she moved on.
For fvcks sake. Did you talk to her? Flirt with her? Make her laugh, call her cute? Then tell her to buzz off? Because that usually works wonders with the proper delivery.

My problem is shouldn't I let the women do the chasing and I thought if you showed interest you're screwed pretty much.
She already did the chasing AND the initiation AND she was completely blunt about it. You didn't respond. Bad, bad job. Awful bad.

Try harder.

You've got them interested, so you're clearly doing something right. Do not change that. Now you need to follow through all the way.
 

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Ya I suck at sealing the deal. The only girls I've hooked up with were them throwing themselves at me. I've never had to initiate anything. This is when looks suck ass for me.
 

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Ringleader41 said:
Ya I suck at sealing the deal. The only girls I've hooked up with were them throwing themselves at me. I've never had to initiate anything. This is when looks suck ass for me.
You ever have a girlfriend or a girl who was a friend and you were cool with? Someone you can talk to and treat like a guy, but with kid gloves.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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