"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I think my girlfriend is cheating on me
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Blusher
Senior Don Juan
Who cares?
We're talking about the ex-convict right?
Did it ever occur to you that he was maybe just involved into illegal activities and owing money to someone?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Blusher
Senior Don Juan
Statistically however ex-convicts have more chance to be "in the wrong place at the wrong time".
But I can understand the issue is still sensitive for you and that you stick to your version of the facts.
Anyway, reading through your posts, it seems you had a "troubled life" to put it mildy and I am not sure you should be giving advice on this board. Maybe leave it to people with a more balanced existence and solid foundations.
May I ask what you need to do to be sentenced to 7 years in prison?
Now, even some men are attacking others. LITERALLY attacking. Reminds me of this other Forum I used to visit, in which some men started adjusting their advice in order to make the women of the Forum "interested". In which some men came attacking others in order to look good in the eyes of some of the women.
And then those same women, instead of debating or simply giving their advice...they added to the attacks or tried to continue fighting. Making the place unbearable.
It is turning this way in here.
Lady, listen...some of the advice you give is good. But you can expect some flame in here from time to time. This is after all a men forum. The reason is that you say one thing and then try to bring YOURSELF as an example of a person with "high qualities", etc...like if you are trying to convince us. While EVERYBODY knows that your actions speak louder as to showcasing the opposite of who you claim to be. I don't blame anyone from flaming you there, because, they are trying to prove that some of the advice you are giving is faulty.
You are giving advice, because you are thinking of YOU. You cannot give advice that way.
If you are in the minority (or the exception to the rule -which by the way, you are NOT), you cannot give advice as if the "exception to the rule" is the "norm".
Good values.
However...I find it ironic that you don't have sex "outside of an exclusive relationship", but you had your FOURTH child (while you were in your 30s) outside of wedlock.
This is the last I will post on this issue (considering that the original poster was probably a troll and has not even replied to any of the posts).
Centaurion
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stevera004
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From http://dict.die.net/:Latinoman said:
bastard
adj 1: born out of wedlock; "the dominions of both rulers passed
away to their spurious or doubtful offspring"-
E.A.Freeman [syn: bastardly, misbegot, misbegotten,
spurious]
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I suspect your marriage was a never ending War-Zone, with him spewing verbal abuse and you doing everything in your power to draw it out of him (under the guise that you are defending yourself), neither giving an inch. Something is missing without that terrible chaos and you do your darnedest to recreate that here. It really is an obvious pattern.
Second why on earth do you reveal every last detail of your life, only exposing ultra-sensitive nerve endings to viscous counter-attacks? Do you see other people laying out every last detail of their lives here? There is a reason they don't, and a reason YOU do.
regards
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Blusher
Senior Don Juan
Geez! TEN years with an abusive jerk before having the guts to do something about it... We're really kicking a dead horse here but, I think by now you understand why you are not qualified to tell people what they should or should not do with their lives.
For real, peple shouldn't be so testy after spending years here. There's always that eye-rolling smiley.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
amoka
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Moderators, any moderator should lock this thread. The original poster is not responding to any of the comments, while others here are off-topic and angry at one another. Drastic action needs to be taken...
Um you're acting like she deserves some explanation. She's done wrong. He walks. When she asks why he says "because i want to."Wyldfire said:
It's too late to "get rid of the male friend." It's already way over the line of disrespect. Even if she's not interested in the guy she's basking in the attention of another male. Relationship foul. Ejected from game.
LovelyLady
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.