"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think my girlfriend is cheating on me
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Blusher
Senior Don Juan
Who cares?
We're talking about the ex-convict right?
Did it ever occur to you that he was maybe just involved into illegal activities and owing money to someone?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Blusher
Senior Don Juan
Statistically however ex-convicts have more chance to be "in the wrong place at the wrong time".
But I can understand the issue is still sensitive for you and that you stick to your version of the facts.
Anyway, reading through your posts, it seems you had a "troubled life" to put it mildy and I am not sure you should be giving advice on this board. Maybe leave it to people with a more balanced existence and solid foundations.
May I ask what you need to do to be sentenced to 7 years in prison?
Now, even some men are attacking others. LITERALLY attacking. Reminds me of this other Forum I used to visit, in which some men started adjusting their advice in order to make the women of the Forum "interested". In which some men came attacking others in order to look good in the eyes of some of the women.
And then those same women, instead of debating or simply giving their advice...they added to the attacks or tried to continue fighting. Making the place unbearable.
It is turning this way in here.
Lady, listen...some of the advice you give is good. But you can expect some flame in here from time to time. This is after all a men forum. The reason is that you say one thing and then try to bring YOURSELF as an example of a person with "high qualities", etc...like if you are trying to convince us. While EVERYBODY knows that your actions speak louder as to showcasing the opposite of who you claim to be. I don't blame anyone from flaming you there, because, they are trying to prove that some of the advice you are giving is faulty.
You are giving advice, because you are thinking of YOU. You cannot give advice that way.
If you are in the minority (or the exception to the rule -which by the way, you are NOT), you cannot give advice as if the "exception to the rule" is the "norm".
Good values.
However...I find it ironic that you don't have sex "outside of an exclusive relationship", but you had your FOURTH child (while you were in your 30s) outside of wedlock.
This is the last I will post on this issue (considering that the original poster was probably a troll and has not even replied to any of the posts).
Centaurion
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stevera004
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From http://dict.die.net/:Latinoman said:
bastard
adj 1: born out of wedlock; "the dominions of both rulers passed
away to their spurious or doubtful offspring"-
E.A.Freeman [syn: bastardly, misbegot, misbegotten,
spurious]
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I suspect your marriage was a never ending War-Zone, with him spewing verbal abuse and you doing everything in your power to draw it out of him (under the guise that you are defending yourself), neither giving an inch. Something is missing without that terrible chaos and you do your darnedest to recreate that here. It really is an obvious pattern.
Second why on earth do you reveal every last detail of your life, only exposing ultra-sensitive nerve endings to viscous counter-attacks? Do you see other people laying out every last detail of their lives here? There is a reason they don't, and a reason YOU do.
regards
Wyldfire said:
Blusher
Senior Don Juan
Geez! TEN years with an abusive jerk before having the guts to do something about it... We're really kicking a dead horse here but, I think by now you understand why you are not qualified to tell people what they should or should not do with their lives.
For real, peple shouldn't be so testy after spending years here. There's always that eye-rolling smiley.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
amoka
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Moderators, any moderator should lock this thread. The original poster is not responding to any of the comments, while others here are off-topic and angry at one another. Drastic action needs to be taken...
Um you're acting like she deserves some explanation. She's done wrong. He walks. When she asks why he says "because i want to."Wyldfire said:
It's too late to "get rid of the male friend." It's already way over the line of disrespect. Even if she's not interested in the guy she's basking in the attention of another male. Relationship foul. Ejected from game.
LovelyLady
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.