"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
But I cannot.Latinoman said:
Sure, if you're dealing with people (like on this board) that have the emotional maturity of a fifth-grader.
Wow, you must be really personally involved with the people you work with (see "fifth-grade maturity" above). Not much to do around the office? Maybe concentrating on your work instead of who your co-worker is banging would help along your productivity.
In 7 years in my current job, nobody I work with has ever layed eyes on any of the... sh#t.... 30 + women I've banged in that time period. I doubt I've even spoken 3 words about any one of them in that time. Why? Because I have sh#t to do that doesn't involve women, or whether women respect me, or whether they respect anyone else. I don't derive my self-respect from the opines of anyone but myself. That's the reason why, although I may be younger than you, I'm decades more evolved.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She didn't have trust issues with me. But she will (as any woman in her position), because I left her.Wyldfire said:
Like your abusive ex-husband...convict ex-fiance...etc.?
Like the convict that was in jail and was your fiance?
Like the man that was in jail and you made your fiance?
I have no control about how others behave. And I have 100% confidence on MYSELF.
Another thing...so you are very aware. Nothing you say is going to change my mind or how I approach things.
Confidence = Latinoman
That's a HUGE difference between us. One that I'm sure lot of people can see in this debate.
May I ask you what are you doing in this board then? Hanging with a bunch of 10-year-old kids?drZaius09 said:
Don't worry about my career success. In fact, I can give advice to you on that issue too.
If you are sleeping with a woman that does NOT respect you. Then, my friend, you can rest assure that she is sleeping with you out of pitty or to get something from you. Lack of self-respect from both parties (you and her).
If you fail to see that...then you are for a rude awakening! Hopefully not after having 2 or 3 kids. Who do you think are the "I used to be a 'dj' and when I got married I became an 'afc'" type that comes in here? People like you...that had zero or weak foundations - which starts with: Self-Respect.
The day that you have to make a CRITICAL decision that can and will change the life of somebody you love or care about...it is the day that you can come in here and tell me you are "decades more evolved" than me. Which on itself is a very arrogant statement.
When I make CRITICAL decisions...people's life get impacted.
And when I make decisions that can impact my children...I think ahead as to the impact it might have three generations ahead of me (i.e. my children's grandchildren).
When you reach that level of control and understanding, then you can claim you are "decades more evolved" than me.
Until then...sit down...shut your mouth...and listen. You might learn something.
Which happens to be one of the best advice ever given to me.
BS. You haven't had sex in 5 YEARS BECAUSE YOU HAVE HUGE TRUST ISSUES AND DON'T TRUST MEN!!!! HELLLOOOO????? Platonic dating does not count as "trusting" men.Wyldfire said:
Either that or you have herpes or some other STD that prevents intimate contact...
And yes, "high standards" = "ex-convicts?" :crackup:
All I can say is you are facing a VERY lonely, bitter, old next 40-odd years of existence because of the typical feminist "American Woman" path you chose in life. Have fun!
There is a big difference. You NEED a lot of people to see that, I don't.Latinoman said:
I'm trying to help those who are in the same position I used to be in. Like you.
I'm sure you're great.
Do you even have any idea who I am or what I do? No. Because I don't come on here making vague statements of self-importance to build approval amongst an audience of strangers.
Sounds like somebody's making vague statements of self-importance to build approval amongst an audience of strangers. Now who's arrogant?
Maybe if you'd have "thought ahead" and been more careful with your reproductive organs to begin with, you wouldn't be in the predicament of needing to "think ahead" for future generations. You created these circumstances, and now you want to pat yourself on the back for taking responsibility for it?
You sound angry. It's a shame that an anonymous figure on an internet message board could elicit such emotion from you.
Everything I want or need...I already have.drZaius09 said:
LOL. What position was that?
Of course I am.
Personally...I don't care.
Instead, you come in here calling the entire population of the forum "5th grade children". That on itself is a vague statement of self-importance.
You mean like dealing with the members of this forum which you consider like 5th grade students?
You are very narrow minded.
A person that calls himself Dr. and is very narrow minded.
Dude, it is called Legacy!
And does not necessary has to be your children. After all, no every man can have children or want to have children.
It could be your nephews.
It could be your Company.
It could be your Classroom.
It could be your Town.
EXACTLY. I created the circunstances.
I repeat I created the circunstances. That is called empowerment. That is called control.
Really? Angry at what?
I'm biatch slapping you! LOL.
LOL.
You don't even have a clue. I'm simply TELLING you what to do.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius, oh Dr. Zauis
Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius, oh oh oh Dr. Zauis
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I wish to share with you an ancient tome from a very excellent english professor on the issue of "how long should my paper be?".
"Well, it's like a young lady's skirt: It should be long enough to cover the subject, but short enough to be interesting."
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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grinder said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.