"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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1. Your colleagues can also be replaced.
But I cannot.

2. Who you screw tells others a LOT about who you are. In fact, tells others the level of self-respect you have.
Sure, if you're dealing with people (like on this board) that have the emotional maturity of a fifth-grader.

3. If the woman you are screwing have zero respect for you...then I, as a colleague, MIGHT respect your work...but WILL have zero respect for you as a Man.
Wow, you must be really personally involved with the people you work with (see "fifth-grade maturity" above). Not much to do around the office? Maybe concentrating on your work instead of who your co-worker is banging would help along your productivity.

In 7 years in my current job, nobody I work with has ever layed eyes on any of the... sh#t.... 30 + women I've banged in that time period. I doubt I've even spoken 3 words about any one of them in that time. Why? Because I have sh#t to do that doesn't involve women, or whether women respect me, or whether they respect anyone else. I don't derive my self-respect from the opines of anyone but myself. That's the reason why, although I may be younger than you, I'm decades more evolved.
 

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Wyldfire said:
I am very careful about who I get involved with because I have very high standards I hold myself to, and any man who comes into my life needs to be a good fit for those standards
Weren't you the one who didn't have sex in 5 years? With all the standards you have it sounds as if you outpriced yourself out of the market.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Wyldfire said:
I find it ironic that you told me recently that your ex wife has trust issues when it would appear to me that you have them as well.
She didn't have trust issues with me. But she will (as any woman in her position), because I left her.



Despite the fact that I have been with someone who gave me reason not to trust men, I don't hold that against new men who come into my life. I am very careful about who I get involved with because I have very high standards I hold myself to
Like your abusive ex-husband...convict ex-fiance...etc.?

and any man who comes into my life needs to be a good fit for those standards. I automatically trust him.
Like the convict that was in jail and was your fiance?

If at some point he gives me reason not to trust him I end the relationship. It's very simple, actually.
Like the man that was in jail and you made your fiance?

It's really too bad that you don't let yourself trust. That tells me that you really aren't too confident about your choices in women and that you are sabotaging your relationships to fail before they even get started.
I have no control about how others behave. And I have 100% confidence on MYSELF.

Another thing...so you are very aware. Nothing you say is going to change my mind or how I approach things.
 

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Arrogance = drZaius
Confidence = Latinoman

That's a HUGE difference between us. One that I'm sure lot of people can see in this debate.


drZaius09 said:
Sure, if you're dealing with people (like on this board) that have the emotional maturity of a fifth-grader.
May I ask you what are you doing in this board then? Hanging with a bunch of 10-year-old kids?

Wow, you must be really personally involved with the people you work with (see "fifth-grade maturity" above). Not much to do around the office? Maybe concentrating on your work instead of who your co-worker is banging would help along your productivity.
Don't worry about my career success. In fact, I can give advice to you on that issue too.

In 7 years in my current job, nobody I work with has ever layed eyes on any of the... sh#t.... 30 + women I've banged in that time period. I doubt I've even spoken 3 words about any one of them in that time. Why? Because I have sh#t to do that doesn't involve women, or whether women respect me, or whether they respect anyone else. I don't derive my self-respect from the opines of anyone but myself.
If you are sleeping with a woman that does NOT respect you. Then, my friend, you can rest assure that she is sleeping with you out of pitty or to get something from you. Lack of self-respect from both parties (you and her).

If you fail to see that...then you are for a rude awakening! Hopefully not after having 2 or 3 kids. Who do you think are the "I used to be a 'dj' and when I got married I became an 'afc'" type that comes in here? People like you...that had zero or weak foundations - which starts with: Self-Respect.

That's the reason why, although I may be younger than you, I'm decades more evolved.
The day that you have to make a CRITICAL decision that can and will change the life of somebody you love or care about...it is the day that you can come in here and tell me you are "decades more evolved" than me. Which on itself is a very arrogant statement.

When I make CRITICAL decisions...people's life get impacted.

And when I make decisions that can impact my children...I think ahead as to the impact it might have three generations ahead of me (i.e. my children's grandchildren).

When you reach that level of control and understanding, then you can claim you are "decades more evolved" than me.

Until then...sit down...shut your mouth...and listen. You might learn something.

Which happens to be one of the best advice ever given to me.
 

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Wyldfire said:
Despite the fact that I have been with someone who gave me reason not to trust men, I don't hold that against new men who come into my life. I am very careful about who I get involved with because I have very high standards I hold myself to
BS. You haven't had sex in 5 YEARS BECAUSE YOU HAVE HUGE TRUST ISSUES AND DON'T TRUST MEN!!!! HELLLOOOO????? Platonic dating does not count as "trusting" men.

Either that or you have herpes or some other STD that prevents intimate contact... :eek:

And yes, "high standards" = "ex-convicts?" :crackup:

All I can say is you are facing a VERY lonely, bitter, old next 40-odd years of existence because of the typical feminist "American Woman" path you chose in life. Have fun! :D
 

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Latinoman said:
That's a HUGE difference between us. One that I'm sure lot of people can see in this debate.
There is a big difference. You NEED a lot of people to see that, I don't.

May I ask you what are you doing in this board then? Hanging with a bunch of 10-year-old kids?
I'm trying to help those who are in the same position I used to be in. Like you.

Don't worry about my career success. In fact, I can give advice to you on that issue too.
I'm sure you're great.

The day that you have to make a CRITICAL decision that can and will change the life of somebody you love or care about...it is the day that you can come in here and tell me you are "decades more evolved" than me.
Do you even have any idea who I am or what I do? No. Because I don't come on here making vague statements of self-importance to build approval amongst an audience of strangers.

When I make CRITICAL decisions...people's life get impacted.
Sounds like somebody's making vague statements of self-importance to build approval amongst an audience of strangers. Now who's arrogant?

And when I make decisions that can impact my children...I think ahead as to the impact it might have three generations ahead of me (i.e. my children's grandchildren).
Maybe if you'd have "thought ahead" and been more careful with your reproductive organs to begin with, you wouldn't be in the predicament of needing to "think ahead" for future generations. You created these circumstances, and now you want to pat yourself on the back for taking responsibility for it?

Until then...sit down...shut your mouth...and listen. You might learn something.
You sound angry. It's a shame that an anonymous figure on an internet message board could elicit such emotion from you.
 

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Now...I will do this for fun.

drZaius09 said:
There is a big difference. You NEED a lot of people to see that, I don't.
Everything I want or need...I already have.



I'm trying to help those who are in the same position I used to be in. Like you.
LOL. What position was that?



I'm sure you're great.
Of course I am.



Do you even have any idea who I am or what I do?
Personally...I don't care.

No. Because I don't come on here making vague statements of self-importance to build approval amongst an audience of strangers.
Instead, you come in here calling the entire population of the forum "5th grade children". That on itself is a vague statement of self-importance.



Sounds like somebody's making vague statements of self-importance to build approval amongst an audience of strangers. Now who's arrogant?
You mean like dealing with the members of this forum which you consider like 5th grade students?


Maybe if you'd have "thought ahead" and been more careful with your reproductive organs to begin with, you wouldn't be in the predicament of needing to "think ahead" for future generations.
You are very narrow minded.

A person that calls himself Dr. and is very narrow minded.

Dude, it is called Legacy!

And does not necessary has to be your children. After all, no every man can have children or want to have children.

It could be your nephews.
It could be your Company.
It could be your Classroom.
It could be your Town.


You created these circumstances, and now you want to pat yourself on the back for taking responsibility for it?
EXACTLY. I created the circunstances.

I repeat I created the circunstances. That is called empowerment. That is called control.


You sound angry.
Really? Angry at what?
I'm biatch slapping you! LOL.

It's a shame that an anonymous figure on an internet message board could elicit such emotion from you.
LOL.

You don't even have a clue. I'm simply TELLING you what to do.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius, oh Dr. Zauis
Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius, oh Dr. Zauis
Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius, oh Dr. Zauis
Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius, oh oh oh Dr. Zauis
 

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cordoncordon said:
Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius, oh Dr. Zauis
Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius, oh Dr. Zauis
Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius, oh Dr. Zauis
Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius, oh oh oh Dr. Zauis
Typical ape...ain't he?

LOL.
 

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You all haven't clued into the fact that trae22 is a troll? Post reeks of troll-dom...
 

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I will agree he could be a troll. First and only post, and no follow up.
 

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LOL, whether trae22 is a troll or not, he/it sure pinched sombody's nipples/scrotum/hemaphrodicic-parts. I do apologize to all those folks that write oceans and oceans of stuff.

I wish to share with you an ancient tome from a very excellent english professor on the issue of "how long should my paper be?".

"Well, it's like a young lady's skirt: It should be long enough to cover the subject, but short enough to be interesting."
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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grinder said:
LOL, whether trae22 is a troll or not, he/it sure pinched sombody's nipples/scrotum/hemaphrodicic-parts. I do apologize to all those folks that write oceans and oceans of stuff.

I wish to share with you an ancient tome from a very excellent english professor on the issue of "how long should my paper be?".

"Well, it's like a young lady's skirt: It should be long enough to cover the subject, but short enough to be interesting."
:up:
 

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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