ok i smsed this girl to ask her out, 1st date, she declined sincerely i presume its bona fide. however I txted: "u look good in pink & i like it when u tie ur hair back", because i thought it'd make me seem confident and know what i want...which is the true...but does it come off as AFC? did i reveal i liked her too early?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I think i screwed up, opinions
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Move on bro, you got rejected. There's plenty more fish in the sea.
And after you got rejected, you compliment her? Not a good idea. That just shows that you're desperate.
And after you got rejected, you compliment her? Not a good idea. That just shows that you're desperate.
Few mistakes,would point them out for better methods next time.
-You SMSed her to ask her out.This actually depicts to the girl that you're not willing to talk to her in person or with a voice,whatever the reason.
-After she declined to go out with you,you still made a nice comment about her,which in no way makes you look confident.It actually tells the girl that you're going to be with her no matter how she treats you.
I truely believe that SMS is a very useless form of communication.It gives a person long time to think about what they want to say,which would totally be different from what they would've said impromptu.
Ok,so here's what you can do with this girl.
1.You can try one more time to ask her out,after 4-5 days.Call her this time or do it in person.If she declines,just say,'Too bad....For you'.And next her.
2.Don't make it a big deal that she declined to go out with you,just act as if nothing happened.It would make you look suave lol.And don't give her too much attention.
3.Talk to other girls in front of her,make yourself look like a really big PRIZE.If you do this correctly,you're gonna be charming.Read articles on charisma to know more.If you do this,there's a high chance the girl would go out with you next time you ask.
These are 3 things you can do.If I were you,I'd do the first one so that I don't waste time on just one girl and turn it into a one-itis.However,the 3rd one is pretty good too,it gets you acquainted to a whole lotta new girls which is good.
Cheers!
-You SMSed her to ask her out.This actually depicts to the girl that you're not willing to talk to her in person or with a voice,whatever the reason.
-After she declined to go out with you,you still made a nice comment about her,which in no way makes you look confident.It actually tells the girl that you're going to be with her no matter how she treats you.
I truely believe that SMS is a very useless form of communication.It gives a person long time to think about what they want to say,which would totally be different from what they would've said impromptu.
Ok,so here's what you can do with this girl.
1.You can try one more time to ask her out,after 4-5 days.Call her this time or do it in person.If she declines,just say,'Too bad....For you'.And next her.
2.Don't make it a big deal that she declined to go out with you,just act as if nothing happened.It would make you look suave lol.And don't give her too much attention.
3.Talk to other girls in front of her,make yourself look like a really big PRIZE.If you do this correctly,you're gonna be charming.Read articles on charisma to know more.If you do this,there's a high chance the girl would go out with you next time you ask.
These are 3 things you can do.If I were you,I'd do the first one so that I don't waste time on just one girl and turn it into a one-itis.However,the 3rd one is pretty good too,it gets you acquainted to a whole lotta new girls which is good.
Cheers!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The Real Ice Man
Don Juan
i think you screwed up, too
ask people out in person
ask people out in person